Relationship Advice: How to Heal After Being Cheated On

When I suffered my first serious heartbreak, I felt like I would never date again. I was afraid of feeling the pain and disappointment of breaking up again. My 'best' pal Rachael introduced me to Wiley, a friend of hers. After a few weeks of hanging out and spending hours on the telephone, we were officially a couple. I will admit, although I liked him very much, I wasn't in love with him.

Months went by, and we were getting serious with each other. We spent lots of time together, We were an ideal couple. We had fun together, our relationship was passionate, he was kind and sweet. What more could I ask for? As time went on Wiley asked me to move in with him, I was seriously considering it. I began staying at his apartment frequently, and falling in love.

After a long weekend together, Wiley left his pager at my house. He had gone to visit his Grandma in Indiana for a few days, and asked me to hang onto the pager. Later that day, I noticed Rachael had paged him a few times, so I called her to tell her Wiley was out of town, and when he called me later I would have him call her. She said "Oh, uh, you two are back together?" I said "We have been together, who said we broke up?" She said "Wiley told me he asked you to move in, and you said no, so he broke up with you." I said "Not quite, thats weird." Rachael said "Yeah, I think so too. Wiley has been with me for two weeks now! We have been sleeping together for like a year and a half, but we are a couple now..."

I was devastated, first of all why would a good friend hook me up with her lover? Why would he tell her we had broken up? What the heck! He had been cheating on both of us! To my satisfaction, Rachael broke up with Wiley right away, as he was a worthless guy. I waited for a few days, and I said "Wiley, you are a jerk, Why would you lead me on, while sleeping with my friend?" Wiley said "I was not sleeping with her, she is a liar! I love you!" I said "Well, love me from a distance, it is over!"

I walked away from Wiley, he had betrayed me and lied to me. Wiley broke my heart for about 5 minutes, but I am glad that it ended. Had I not ended the relationship, Wiley would have continued cheating and I could have gotten a disease, or been trapped in a horrible relationship.

After Wiley cheated on me, I realized I deserved a better man.