Relationship Advice for Single People Looking for that Special Someone

Relationships Aren't Achievement Badges!

Tiffany Ranae
I have been married for nearly twelve years, though not to the same person. However, because my spouse and I have no children, we live a much more free lifestyle than other married couples our age. The result of the freedom to get out at night is that many of our friends is single. Every one of them wants desperately to be in a relationship. They feel that they have somehow failed in life or that there is something wrong with them because they are all alone and nobody has "snatched them up".

While I have not been single for a very long time, I can appreciate that sometimes being single can get lonely, but trust me when I tell you that there are worse things than being lonely for a relationship. The WORST case scenario is to be in a relationship that doesn't work. I hear single people talk about how they wasted time with someone who didn't work out, as if the relationship had veered them from their course. The reality of relationships is that either they fit or they don't.

I own a BMW and a Nissan. The parts are not interchangeable. If I were to try to mount the water pump for my Nissan onto my Beemer, I might get one or two bolts to connect, but that's a far cry from getting the Nissan water pump to serve the Beemer. My question to those of you who are single and feel as if something is wrong with you or with all of the possible dating partners you have had or could have, is this: If I try to mount a Nissan water pump onto a BMW engine and it doesn't work out, which part has something wrong with it? I can put the same water pump on my Nissan, and it works fine… and I can put a BMW water pump on my BMW and the engine works fine. Therefore, technically, there is nothing wrong with either part. Yet, when I put the two parts together that have nothing wrong with them, I get an unsatisfactory result.

Some people take longer to find parts because of their rarity. A Duisenberg is a rare automobile that runs collectors into the millions of dollars. Parts for these cars are rare and owners often have to wait months or even years for a replacement part. That's a far cry from the availability of parts for my Nissan.

Ladies and gentlemen, if you feel frustrated by the lack of a special romantic relationship in your life, I want you to remember one thing. YOU ARE LIKE A DUISENBERG looking for some trim for your backseat (yes…I get the sexual innuendo there). You are a completely functioning and beautiful rare vessel that is truly priceless. Only the right part will work, and trying to force-fit parts that weren't made especially for you is just silly. In fact, doing so could be damaging to your interior. (Yeah… I like how that came together too). Enjoy lining up parts to see if one fits, but remember, anyone can be like a Nissan. Nissan parts come cheap. If you are dissatisfied in life because you are wanting a special relationship, never concern yourself with thoughts of insecurity. You are a rare and special person. Only the right fit is worth having. Everything else will sputter, cough, and die! Happy parts hunting!

Published by Tiffany Ranae

I am a 3* year old pre-op transsexual woman with a history in religion and politics. If you want to think about old things in new ways, I'm your girl. If it's not original, I won't write it.  View profile

  • 70% of first marriages end in Divorce
  • 50% of ALL marriages end in Divorce
  • If you force-fit a relationship, it will sputter cough and die.
The reason second marriages fare better than first marriages is that those who have been through the trauma of divorce inherently understand the truth of this article.

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