Relationship Advice: Waiting and Experience Will Lead You to the Right One

It's OK if you didn't have a chance to date as a teenager. Maybe your shyness kept you from having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Perhaps you were unlike other kids your age. You didn't mind being alone or not being popular like the other kids in your class. You enjoyed competing for good grades because it was important to you. You cared less about peer pressure, so it was easy to ignore the opposite sex in high school, even though you had fantasies of being his or her steady partner. At this age you probably don't know what love is until you live life a little longer.

Right now you feel like following your dream of becoming somebody and getting into college is your main priority. You may move out of your family's home where you lived all your life since elementary school, so you can be more independent and show the world that you can be responsible. You find yourself an efficiency apartment and find work earlier to support all the bills coming your way. To show the world how responsible you are, you decided to find part time work as well to add to your already busy schedule of going to college full time and working full time. Since doing all of these is your priority you don't have time to go out and have a social life that you're probably not ready for.

Having been on your own for at least a year now maintaining work, school, and the responsibilities gained on your own, you are living the real life without the aide of your family. You should be proud of yourself because on top of all of what you are doing, you are working really hard to finish college no matter how difficult it is to be alone, receiving criticism at work, at a manufacturing job you can't wait to get out of because of the little respect you receive. They wanted to keep you real bad when you gave them your resignation letter, but you would have a much better chance somewhere else, because right how you need respect.

Although you did not date in high school, while you were out on your own, working and attending classes you managed to meet someone at work who drew you into a serious relationship that you thought you were ready for. It was a bit of a mess for you, becoming involved with someone who couldn't understand you, mistreating you, and who you no longer trust after all the years of loyalty you've given. So this is your first mistake in falling in love with the wrong person.

You've tried your best to work things out in keeping your family together. Everyone tried convincing you to remain married because of the family, but you couldn't trust your partner anymore, so you found someone online who gave you a second chance at love. People warned you again that online dating could be dangerous. But you're a cautious person. You didn't give away your real name or address for safeties sake.

When the time comes someone will realize what a good find you are. At the same time your life's experience will have taught you more about love than just a date in high school. The person of your dreams is the person you can trust and who will trust you the same, support you and would not judge the quality of your being by taking into account of how many relationships or dates you have had when you were a teenager.