Relationship Fatigue: How to Avoid Getting Lazy in Love

Love is not just what you feel, Love is always what you give.

Love is not something you feel...

You know when you meet someone and things are fresh and new and you have all those FEELINGS?

Tingles inside, interested and curious about that person? When you look into their eyes and your heart melts or they say something that makes you laugh so hard, it just puts a smile on your face.

That first brush or touch that makes your heart beat faster, hormones start waking up after having been asleep for LOONNGGG ass time.

Those are wonderful feelings....is it love?

I don't know It could be the start of something.

When your heart aches because you miss them in your arms. You feel happy when you hear their voice and you get happier each and every time they call you or text you.....(the high tech world we live in where everyone is accessible at any hour of the day.) lol

There is romance in the air, damn the birds are singing and you feel like running through a field of dreams and possibilities. It can be addicting that euphoria that comes with all that.

Is it love?

I would love to think so. Maybe it is but after reading this little phrase I realize it is such a small part of what love really is.

Love is a heavy word.

Don't use it carelessly....It should be backed up with actions....a conscious choice that you SHOW UP.

Love is what you give. That shoulder to cry and lean on. Words of encouragement when someone if hurting or feeling terrible. Making yourself available to someone else because you want to be there for them when they need help.

When you reach out to someone to LOVE on them.

Because this makes you happy this what you do is what love is.

Love is a choice that "Ok we are disagreeing, not seeing eye to eye but no one is leaving the room." (Maryann Williamson)

Love is sticking around when no one else will.

It is a commitment to see the other person through their struggles and offering yourself to that person all that you can give to them. Love is "What can I do to make you smile" because I love you. Lots of times we as humans look for what is in it for us before taking that chance, putting ourselves, our hearts out on the line.

Why?

Because we are afraid....of falling flat on our face....afraid that the love we offer will be rejected...afraid that we will bare our soul only to scrape it up off the ground when the person we are giving of ourselves to decides they don't want it.

Isn't that true?

This fear is not love...if love is giving...it is expecting nothing in return. Love is taking a chance and come hell or high water it can be a liberating thing. If we could all just let go of those little fears that hold us back, causes us to hesitate I think there would be more happy people.

Another reason is we just get 'lazy in love'.

It starts to seem too much to say those three words just because.

Marianne Williamson talks about once the euphoria fades, people get too comfortable in a relationship. They think "Now that I have finally found someone, I can relax".

That is when you see the likes of Al Bundy sitting on a couch with his hand in his pants. Or you see the wifey who forgets to put on her make up, doesn't fix herself up any more.< P>

"Mz. B, my man loves me exactly as I am that is what I want." you may say. That is fine but that does not mean you should forget about yourself in the process. People forget the art of kindness and thoughtfulness because now they are in a couple.

Maryann Williamson also states that, "One should not seek out love as they were never loved but one should actively LOVE as they were never loved." What do you think could happen if more people had this concept down.

"I will love you like I have always wanted to be loved". Now that gives me goosebumps.

People get lazy in love.

Or we just get lazy in love. Love is respect for someone else and considering their feelings and thinking of them in your actions.

Who here has not been burned by some difficult relationship? We all have had our heart broken before. But here we are still alive and having survived it, can we now take a chance for happiness?

What holds you back from the person you want so much? Love is what you give.....much more than what you feel...

If you depend on your feelings for love, what happens when that person does something that hurts your feelings? Does the love dissipate like boiling water? Or does it even matter?

Doesn't your mind control your emotions? Feelings are fleeting....a decision and choice is not....remember who made the decision. Can someone make you feel complete? No, but someone can add brightness to your already wonderful life.

Because no matter what you go through in life....being alive is wonderful as opposed to being dead and that goes for more then just the physical realm. This doesn't have to be all about romantic relationships, it goes for families, your children and friends.

Love is what you give to someone else....so what are you giving to those that you love?