Relationship Red Flags

If you are 21 and younger please beware ladies, he most likely is Mr. Wrong in the sheepskin of Mr. Right. Even a Mr. Kind of Right is still Mr. Wrong. You have to realize the cardinal rule most Moms' do not teach their daughters when it comes to men: What you see is what you get!

Sure, it's cute now. He makes you giggle. Those habits he may grow out of. It's just a phase. It's just a bunch of crap. After two or three years of the same crap, you start to realize that thirty years worth of it may not be your ideal vision.

Another cardinal rule most Moms' neglect to mention? Trust your instincts! If your getting a psycho vibe or have red flags going off in your brain, pay attention to the clues you subconscious is catching before reality does.

Some therapists will claim that some fighting is natural in a relationship. This would be correct. You are two different people, with different interests, and sometimes you may clash. The key part is the reaction to the clashing.

Do these seem like red flag situations to you?

He has a tearful melt down when you yell at him, he wins the sympathy vote, and you give him another chance.

He freaks out every time you hang out with a guy friend, becomes paranoid, texts you constantly, or feels threatened by anyone else with a dick.

He has physically assaulted you in any way, shape or form, apologizes later, and claims he still loves you. This can be from grabbing you by the shoulders and shaking you, cornering you in a room, throwing you through a door, or making you feel threatened or fearful for your life.

Honestly, many women experience these feelings and situations everyday and somehow believe men will change. What tends to happen is men change in the wrong way: they get worse. If you stay long enough, you will end up broken or dead. It happens every day.

Ladies believe me when I say it; some men use that danger factor to draw you in because we like the bad boys who bring us flowers. Even if he is a god in bed, makes you breakfast and holds a job, if he makes you feel afraid, there is a very large problem on the brink of your horizon!

Remember the two forgotten rules you should keep close to your heart.

What you see is what you get!

Trust your instincts!

They could save your life. It took me three years of living with the same man to see the light. Those red flag situations happened repeatedly, for stupid insignificant reasons. It takes more than love to make a relationship work. Please don't be blind.

Beware the men in sheepskin. Even a Mr. Kind of Right is still Mr. Wrong.