Relationships: Addicted to Falling in Love

Most adults are familiar with that wonderful feeling of first falling in love. It creates a euphoria that's even better than the best chemical high. Yes, we all like the feeling of falling in love, but what these addicts do have really nothing to do with actual true love. Let's take a look at the person we may call the serial lover.

They appear to be just like everyone else who dates, and then later on falls in love. What the difference is, is that "love" has nothing to do with their partner. It has everything to do with the high they experience from falling in love. Yes, it is sort of a chemical addiction in the sense being in love does stimulate certain chemicals and hormones to go sky high when first falling in love. I mean after all who doesn't like that feeling. However, most people who fall in love are actually in love with the person, and secondary to that they get to enjoy the euphoria from falling and being in love.

It's definitely a sad situation for the addicts partner, because as soon as the grind of daily life, and the quietness of a typical relationship sets in, this person is off and running. They cannot in any way tolerate the mundane ness, problems that may arise, and the loss of the strong physical attraction that first accompanies a new relationship. Now, don't get me wrong I don't want the typical long term relationship to sound dull and boring, but as we all know we certainly cannot sustain the high that couples are on when they first meet. This addict sees a normal long-term relationship as boring and useless. Without the chemical and hormonal high, it is as appealing to them as a trip to the Dentist.

So, what ends up happening to the relationship this person is involved in? Well, plain and simple, it ends; they go on to find another victim to fall in love with. Sometimes I wonder if Elizabeth Taylor had this problem? It's not unusual for this type of person to fall in love dozens of time, they may even go to their grave, never to have been in a long term relationship. They may never get married, or they may marry over and over again.

The saddest thing of all is their victims. They have no clue what so ever that this person will love them and leave faster than a racecar on their last lap. They never see it coming as this person is at their best when first falling in love. Just when they think they have forever rapped up with this love addict, they're out the door. Their victim is stunned, as their relationship seemed so perfect.

Although it is very hard to feel sorry for this type of person, I do find it very sad that they will never know what real true love is. True love includes not only the good stuff, like the euphoria of sexual attraction, but the day to day hard stuff that a couple conquers together. This hard, and sometimes boring stuff, create a bond between two people that is far more splendid than just the high one experiences from first falling in love.

I had a very wise person tell me once, that one should not even start thinking about the word love until you have known someone ar least six months. I think she hit the nail on the head. If we get passed that euphoria of sexual attraction to the really important things that matter, before committing our hearts, perhaps those addicted to falling in love will not get us in their grips!

*This is a serious addiction, which can cause serious hurt to their victims. As with any addiction, you should seek counseling. There is always a caring professional willing to help!