Relationships: Avoid Becoming a Psycho Ex

It seems that there are more articles and gossip lately over how to make your significant other happy or what to do in times of crisis. The biggest piece of advice that has gone over-looked for quite some time is when to let go and how to avoid becoming a psycho ex. We all need attention. Nobody likes the feeling of a failed relationship. The two parties of the break-up are usually not in agreement over the split. The problem is, when some people break up their brain backfires from the gut-wrenching pain in their hearts, making them feel rejected and causing quite a bit of clouded judgment. This article is being written to outline the different things that one should probably not do after a breakup.

The Pregnancy Scare - Your a few days late for your period and you have been crying for days or months over your ex. You would do anything to just hear the sound of his voice again. You want so badly to convince him to give "us" another chance. What if I am pregnant you ask yourself, adding the complications of your unconfirmed pregnancy to the heaping pile of emotional ruin you are already consumed with.

Response: Girl, have you ever heard of stress delaying a period before? It is no wonder your period is late after all of the crying, chocolate and your pity induced lack of sleep! My advice to you is to take a pregnancy test. Don't go on and on about "what if" to everyone in your address book including your ex. Take the test. If it is negative move on and let him go. If it is positive, then is the time to say something but does not necessarily mean you are reconciling.

Slashing Tires - You're angry. You will do anything for some kind of reaction from them. It doesn't even have to be a positive one. Besides, you hear they are seeing someone else and how dare they? You have been hurting this badly and they aren't even responding to you anymore. I will fix them! I'll slash their tires! Being considered a psycho is worth the pain as long as you can get back at them for hurting you.

Response: Slashing someone's tires is about the equivalent of a 6 year old breaking someone's toy in a rage. It is mean cruel and unjustified in most cases. It is also immature. Grow up already! You may think you will feel better but, it could very well be from the inside of a jail cell. Do you honestly think they are going to have any warm fuzzy over needing new tires? Think again Einstein!

The phone calls - I am hurting and they haven't called me back. If they don't call me in a few minutes, I will keep calling back until they pick up out of aggravation! I'll call all night if I have to!

Response: Many girls fall into this one. I have in the past myself. The more you call them. The angrier they will become, the least likely it is that they will call you that day. Give them space. Call, at the most, two times. The second, you should leave a rational calm message saying that you are there if and when they are ready to talk, then leave them be! What if they don't call? You ask. Then either you really screwed up or they really aren't worth your time!

Driving by the house - The thought of another person being there with your sweetie is more then you can bear. You are pacing the floor wondering where they are tonight and why they haven't returned any of your phone calls. I have nothing that important to do tonight you tell yourself. You get into your car and before you know it, you are lurking outside their house or work just watching.

Response: This is dangerous in so many ways that I don't even know where to begin. You have no business anywhere near them. If they are not returning your phone calls, they do not want you around them. This is stalking plain and simple and you are asking to be caught!

Interrogation - You are dying to find out any information that you possibly can on your ex. You need to know if they are alright and if they have been seeing anyone lately. You have no way of finding this out, so you turn to your mutual friends for a briefing.

Response: Interrogating all of your mutual friends is bound to end in disaster. Asking your friends about your ex is like asking them to choose sides. Leave your friends out of it or you will lose them. It isn't fair and a good friend shouldn't do it.

Everyone has that one person in their life that they feel could have the advantage of making them go a little batty. Some people bring out the good in you while others bring out the bad but you need to be careful that you do not cross the line. If you do, you need to make sure it doesn't become habit-forming. If it does, you should consider speaking to someone if you ever want to end up in a "normal" relationship.