A few years ago I stepped into a nearby cafe for a cup of coffee and a slice of apple pie with whipped cream on top. I was alone and feeling lonely. I needed some comfort food.
The cafe was filled and there was not an empty table in sight. I noticed an older man sitting alone. I walked over and asked If I could share the table. He smiled and said, "sure."
I bought my cake and coffee and placed it on the table on the space he cleared. He looked sad and seemed to need someone to talk to. I listened as I sipped on the hot coffee and licked the whipped cream off my finger.
He took a sip of his coffee; placed the cup on the table and told me that he was a retired mailman who used to be happily married. He had lived with his wife in a big house near the water. He had two sons and one married daughter. I listened without responding. I took another forkful of my apple pie and listened intently. I had nothing else to do.
He said that one day, on his postal round, he met a beautiful younger woman. It did not seem to bother her that he was an older man. She was twenty-two and he was sixty-eight. At least, this is what he told me. They discreetly began to date. She knew he was married but did not seem to care. She said he was sexy and turned her on. They met during a lunch break, a holiday, or wherever and whenever they could.
She intrigued him, and soon he fell in love. He told his wife about his affair with the younger woman. She became enraged. She immediately filed for a divorce and kept the house and everything else she could lay her hands on.
He married the younger woman who did not care that he was an older man. Eventually the connection between them changed due to the age difference and lack of having similar interests. Also, the little blue pill was not always working.
One day, a few months after they had married, he invited his old cronies to the house to play poker. Instead, they watched one of the old John Wayne westerns. The scene when the cowboys chased the Indians had them verbally cheering. Hearing the noise his younger wife walked into the room.
She looked confused and, with a quizzical look on her face, wanted to know who John Wayne was? At that moment he realized that their relationship was doomed. They shared nothing in common due to the differences in their ages, and because the little blue pill was not working. He realized that the affair and marriage to a younger woman was a mistake.
She left him a short time later. His marriage was annulled. He rented a small apartment. His wife never forgave him even though he pleaded for forgiveness. His grown children seldom visit.
Relationships between older man and younger women can fail due to many reasons aside from age differences. A younger woman is tireless, and an older man tires easily.
1. The younger wife might come home from work, shower and quickly get dressed. She enjoys spending one evening a week with friends to have dinner out, take in a late night movie or go dancing and drinking at a local social club.
The older husband, on the other hand, might come home tired out from a full day's work, change into comfortable clothing, heat a frozen dinner and sit in front of the television with a beer in his hand watching the game on TV and dozing.
2. The younger woman might be a member of a bowling league. She goes bowling once a week and enters competitions for cash prizes. She joins a health club and exercises two evenings a week to maintain her slim figure.
The older man, on the other hand, might suffer from severe arthritis, back pains or a deterioration of his spine. His bowling days ended years ago, and he stopped playing tennis when he fell and broke his knee.
3. The infrequency of sex with his older wife, was one of the reasons he was lured to marry the younger woman. He was not getting enough sex at home and with the help of the little blue pill his sex drive was unquenchable.
His younger wife taught him sexual positions he had never tried. It was exciting for a while until he hurt his back trying out one of the positions and became concerned that too much sex would cause him to have a heart attack.
Eventually they divorced-end of the story!
He told me that he was sorry that he ever met the younger woman and that she destroyed his marriage and his family life.
He rented a small apartment, adopted a dog for companionship and spends his days alone, going to the movies or having coffee at this cafe and talking to strangers, like me.
Relationships between younger woman and older men can destroy a marriage and ruin the man's life!
Source: An actual conversation and experience between myself and the older man.
Published by Sondra C
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26 Comments
Post a CommentGood article...Laura Everly
Serves him right!
Sad story- however some women are actually emotionally attracted to older men. My fiance is 40 with 4 kids, I'm 26 with no kids. The fact that I was born when he was in High School is not an issue for us- we share the same values, interests, and I love his kids dearly. I can't wait until he's 60 and can enjoy his golden years with him! Our age difference is not so bad, but when my mom first met my man she thought I was bringing her a guy! Whoops! Sometimes I get mistaken for his daughter, but we laugh it off.
A sad lesson learned
Always ask the John Wayne question on the first date. ;) Interesting article.
Thanks for sharing this, Sondra!
Well, I've already been here. No Matter, It's good for PVs
A lesson learned! Quite interesting.
Excellent ♥ thanks so much for sharing
Such a sad story.