Relationships: Cheating; When Babies Become Victims

Cheaters never stop to think about the serious consequences of an unplanned pregnancy. All you have to do is watch the Maury Povich show to know just how often this does happen. What's not talked about is what happens to these babies emotionally, and mentally as they are growing up.

Babies born to cheaters because of an unplanned pregnancy are suffering in more ways then anyone could imagine. It's hard enough to grow up in today's world with to loving parents, no leas growing up with the stigma of being the result of an indiscretion.

Firstly, the chances of the two people who mad the baby ending up, as a couple is slim. Therefore, from the get-go this child is being born to a single parent. If the child's mother was the one who cheated on her spouse, what's the chances that her husband would want o raise a child by another man, especially that of a man she cheated with. If the husband agrees to raise the child as his own and continue the relationship, this begins it's own set of problems. No matter how much that man thinks it won't bother him, it probably will. This can't help but be inflicted on to the child. The resentment, and anger would be hard to hide. This child would be growing up feeling alienated form the beginning. He may even be treated completely different from the other children. This can't help but seriously damage a child's sense of self-esteem, and self worth.

This child may also eventually fins out what circumstances he was born under. This would not be emotionally easy for a child to handle. He may also at the same time have to deal with his biological father not wanting to have any thing to do with him. There's nothing like blatant rejection to really mess up a child's mind.

If the man who cheated on his wife should want to be involved in the child's life, and the wife trys to accept this, this is even a bigger disaster. There's nothing like another woman having your husband's baby to make you the most bitter woman on the face of the earth. Can you imagine a child having to visit his father on the weekends with his wife around? This child would most definitely be made to understand he is a "mistake" that his father made, and that his mother is the "Whore" he slept with. Do we even need to state how devastating this would be to the child?

The last scenario would be if the woman who got pregnant from an adulterous affair, would give the child up for adoption. I know. It sounds really wonderful that some loving couple out there would have this little angel to adopt, and everyone would live happily ever after. Well, we all know life isn't a fairy tale. We should always remember no matter how loving an adoptive family is, the child invariably wonders about his parents, how he came about, and why neither of his parents wanted him. No one like to think about this aspect, but children who are adopted often times have emotional problems regarding this. Then how about when he gets old enough to find his parents? That's another can of worms to be opened. Please donor misunderstand me, I think adoption is wonderful. My niece is receiving her baby boy from Korea this coming Christmas, and I could not be happier for her. However, adopted children do have to deal with certain problems as they are growing, and when they reach adulthood. Cheating should never be the reason a loving couple receives a child, if not only for the sake of the child.

There you have it, some of the reasons why Cheating can turn babies into the littlest victims in life. My advice, Don't Cheat At All, and if you're stupid enough to cheat, at least be smart enough to use birth control! NO baby should start out their life as a victim of two selfish people, who didn't stop to think about the consequences of their actions!

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