Relationships: Leaving Someone You Love

Most people assume that if someone leaves a relationship that they have stopped loving the person they're with. On the contrary, more and more people are leaving relationships where the person who is leaving is still in love. I guess you may be asking than why are they leaving? Let's explore some of the reasons why people leave even though they haven't stopped loving.

Physical/Mental/Emotional Abuse-

I know what you're thinking, well if someone is abusing you why would you love them? Well, love isn't that simple, as a matter of fact it's probably the most complicated experience in one's life. Love is why most people stay with abusive people in the first place. It's hard especially when the person you love has so many other qualities that are hard to ignore. Remember you deeply loved this person before they became abusive. Remember the abuser keeps saying they will change. The point is abuse is wrong no matter what, and no one should stay in abusive relationship, however, it des unfortunately take most people who are being abused some time before they can set aside the love factor, and leave. They don't stop loving the person their with, they just start caring about themselves. Most people I have found who leave abusive relationships still say they love the person they left.

Cheating_

Some people can just not handle if a person cheats on them. The emotional torture is just too much. The betrayal is beyond forgiveness, and forgetting. Does this mean you stop loving that person? No, it just means that you cannot accept what they did by cheating and have to get out of the relationship. This is especially hard if the major part of the relationship was good.

Addictions-

Most people who are in love with those with hardcore addictions spend many years of trying to get that person to quit. They wring the alcoholic out in the morning, or get a second job to support the drug addict's habit. They also spend countless days, months and even years, trying to get the addict to get help. After awhile the healthy partner becomes exhausted and can do no more. Do they still love this person? Most often times they do. They know the person is not the ADDICTION. However, as true as that may be, the addiction does come along with that person. They no longer want to watch the person they love self-destruct, and they have to leave in order to survive.

Serious Illness-

Believe it or not some people can just not handle a loved ones serious illness. Whether it be because of the extreme fear of possibly losing that person, or the horror of watching that person they love suffer, they just can't do it. It may sound selfish to some, and maybe it is, the point is they don't have the "Right Stuff' to stick it out. They almost always still love the person their leaving dearly. This is a lot more common than most people know.

Low Self-Esteem-

Sometimes when people no longer feel worthy of the person they most definitely do love, they leave. It may be because of a lost job, a sudden disability, or clinical depression. Whichever the reason, they just don't feel they want to put their loved one through it. This is the hardest one because they truly are, in their mind, trying to spare the one they love.

These are just some of the more common reasons people leave the person they love. Somehow I see this as a lot more tragic then those who leave because they just stopped loving the other person. One continues the suffering where the other one just stops it!

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