Relationships: Nice Guys Do Finish Last

So what's going on with nice guys that they always seem to finish last? Well, the problem isn't really with the guy, but the girl who unknowingly is lucky enough to find him. It may be hard pill to swallow for most women, but it's true, the problem is with us not the nice guy. Let's look at why the nice guy most often finishes last in the eyes of most women.

A Nice Guy is Safe-

Let's face most women know that a nice guy is safe. What I mean by that is, she's probably not going to get hurt by him, and he will probably be there no matter what. Well, that's a good thing, right? You would think that would be a priority for most women, however that's not always the case. In most people's minds safe is nice, and can be pleasant and enjoyable, unfortunately, it's not "Wow". Human beings although wanting safety and security, are not excited by it. Safety can be a comforting thing to have, but can be viewed as mundane, and almost tedious over a long period of time.

A Nice Guy Seems To Good To Be True-

Yes, most women are scared to death to believe that something so wonderful can actually be real, and that it's going to last. For whatever reason, probably because of the hurts of the past, most women feel like if they believe this nice guy is going to stick around, love them till death do us part, and not go out of their way to hurt them, that they can't be real. The problem with this is, the very thing they try so hard to find, is the very thing they push away out of fear of loss. I know it sounds crazy, why would you push away what you truly want? Well, you know what they say "If you have nothing, you have nothing to lose". Sometimes good things do last.

A Nice Guy Isn't A Challenge-

So what's the problem here? This is not about a vocation, or helping the profoundly inept. Women for some stupid reason seem to the think the greater the challenge, the greater the prize. Surprise, you're wrong! Men who require a lot of challenge to let's say settle down, are those most often miserable when they do. Somehow they seem like a caged animal patiently awaiting their keeper to let them out on a regular basis. Nice guys are usually not much of a challenge, they seem to know what they want and are very comfortable with it. I still wonder to this day, including myself, why we seem to run the hardest after the men who run the fastest, instead of picking that slow and steady paced nice guy?

A Nice Guy is Boring-

This is absolutely not true. What is true is that they are not lost in a sea of drama, confusion, and endless arguments. You would think by now women would have figured out how to get their adrenaline going, without having to sacrifice themselves to the unbalanced men of the world. It took me many years, but I finally figured out, what at one point in my life seemed boring, is now like a beautiful symphony accompanied by a serene sunset. Boring is only relative to that which is not settled in oneself.

My vote is definitely for the nice guy. He will give you a quiet, continuous happiness that is unmatched by the crazy, adrenaline soaked, hormonal confusion of the so called exciting guy. So do yourself a big favor ladies, if you don't have one yet, go and find one, and if you already do, hang on tight.!!