Relationships: Rules for Keeping an Ex as a Friend

Keeping an Ex as a friend takes a lot of courage, as well as some strong ground rules that need to be followed. This is especially true if you have a new love in your life, and they are skeptical or frightened about the relationship. Let's look at some rules to keep that may make it more bearable for all involved!

NEVER See Your Ex Alone Without Your New Love-

This is very important. You don't need to be planting seeds of doubt in your loved one's mind. You may be saying, too bad they'll just have to handle it. Well, that sounds like a workable concept, the only problem is your forgetting you truly love this person, and should care how they feel. There no reason why all three of you can be friends, and that way there is no worrying, or wondering about what's going on, it's all in the open.

NEVER Compare Your New Love To The Ex-

Boy, if you want to start an instant war just go ahead and compare the two of them. Your new love should be your first concern, and they shouldn't have to hear how wonderful, or worse even better than they are. This one is so common, especially during arguments. Well, if you want to keep that Ex as a friend, I strongly suggest you don't keep bringing them up to your new love.

DON'T Go Running Every Time Your Ex Needs You-

Yes I know a friend is a friend. Well, guess what your Ex has other friends to depend on as well as you. An occasional helping out with something is Okay, but remmebr take your new love along with you. Sometimes a new love can feel overwhelmed by any friendship that is too demanding of your time together, especially that of an Ex.

DO NOT Side With The EX in An Argument-

Are you crazy or what? About the worst mistake you can make is to take the side of the Ex over your new love. I'm not saying the new love may not be wrong, just don't shove it down their throat that the EX is right!

Be Supportive and Comforting-

One of the most important things you can do is try to understand how the new love feels having the EX around. It really can be a scary situation for most. Make sure your new love knows their the number one man/woman in your life. Be understanding when they get a little insecure. Support their right to have these scary feelings, and comfort them with hugs and affection. You will be glad you did!

There's nothing wrong with staying friends with your Ex, even after meeting a new love. Just make sure you have sense about it. Try and think how you would feel. All things are workable if done with love, compassion, understanding, and a few good ground rules to keep the situation form getting out of hand!