Relationships: Why Space and Silence Can Be Golden

You probably know a couple who text, call, Facebook, email, see, tweet, or smoke signal each other almost constantly. It seems as though they don't go to the bathroom without the other knowing. Despite the love of talking to each other often, less contact and even some silence can be quite beneficial.

Chance to Miss Each Other

There's the old saying that states that absence makes the heart grow fonder and I believe it to be true in many cases. If you talk to each other almost constantly, there leaves no time to want to talk to and see the person. Wanting and yearning can be incredibly important in a relationship. You know that happy feeling you get when your partner texts you out of nowhere to tell you they love you? If you are in constant contact, you lose out on those surprises.

Less Fighting and Angry Words

Couples that have a substantial amount of contact with each other may also choose to fight with each other when there's a problem instead of giving each other space to cool off. Often, this cool down period is beneficial for several reasons, one of those being a way to avoid saying angry words that you later try to take back. Instead of fighting it out until both of you say angry words and are physically and emotionally exhausted, separate and go to neutral corners until both of you are calm enough to discuss things without screaming or being nasty.

Less Noticeable Annoyances

As your relationship progresses, your partners irritating tendencies surface; he or she may have more bothersome habits than you initially realized. For example, chances are you will notice more annoying habits of your partner after you move in together than when you were living in your separate homes. Giving each other space and room to breathe may allow these irritating habits to not bother you as frequently as they would if you were in constant contact with each other.

Less Chance of Getting Sick of the Person

When you talk to someone constantly, there is a good chance that after awhile you are going to get sick of the person. If you care about the person and want to remain with them, giving each other space so you won't want to not be around each other can be a great thing. It can also prevent you from eventually feeling more smothered than loved.

Time By Yourself

Everyone needs time for themselves but with a busy life it can be hard to find that time we need. Having a partner that you constantly talk to could mean a complete overload of occupied time and less time for yourself. Instead of talking to the person so often, read a book, go for a walk or even watch a movie that the other person wants no part in watching. When you are better to yourself, it can mean that you are better for your relationship and your partner.

Before you feel the need to constantly keep in contact with your significant other, consider the benefits of having some space. It can be better for your relationship now as well as in the future.