Renewing Your Flirting Skills

Here you go again, you say? Single and hoping you can remember how to play the field? Just exactly how does one go about starting to date again? The Social Issues Research Center reports that flirting is an integral part of perpetuating the species and a necessary first step to establishing a new relationship.

Let's face it, we all know how to flirt. But some of us are less practiced at it than others. Check out the following tips on how to flirt:

---Because we all know first impressions matter, take care with your personal appearance before you leave for a night out of flirting.

---Don't wear your favorite shirt from 1987. Even though it's not necessary to dress too trendy, a shirt or outfit in an updated style will add to your appeal.

---In the event you don't prefer to go out alone, invite a good friend to go out with you. For many, it's much easier to relax and truly enjoy themselves if there is a good friend close by.

---Conduct your own research--take a night out with a friend whom you think is great at flirting. Observe him and notice how/what he does.

---Go out to a restaurant or a bar you do not usually frequent. You will be more comfortable practicing your skills of flirting if you are not surrounded by too many people who know you.

---During a flirty encounter, try to relax and smile. It is important to appear comfortable with yourself.

---It is probably not a good idea to drink alcohol when you are out for an evening of flirting and becoming acquainted with others. If you must, try to drink only one drink throughout the evening.

---If you are at a party in someone's home, offer your assistance to the hostess. Showing a helpful and caring attitude is like a magnet to others. Who knows, someone may find what you are doing so attractive that he/she approaches you and starts the flirting process.

---It never hurts to demonstrate a sense of humor. Practically everyone loves to laugh. Avoid socially unacceptable humor, of course.

---If you notice someone you would like to get to know, establish brief eye contact. This action signals you are interested.

---Since most people can identify a "standard pick-up line," it is recommended that you not use them.

---An effective method to establish contact with someone is to join an ongoing conversation. If there are one or two people present you already know, utilize them to begin to talk with others. For example, if one of your friends is chatting with someone you would like to get to know better, join their conversation.

Renewing your flirting skills does not have to be an awkward or painful process. Remembering to relax, smile, and be yourself will facilitate successful contact with others. Excellent flirting skills can lead the way into your next beautiful relationship.