Repair Your Marriage

There are always different reasons as to why a couple cannot stay married and these reasons vary from infidelity to just growing apart. Sure, when you first start dating it is all about bliss, you fantasize about a life together and you hope for the best. Soon you are engaged and the bride goes into wedding overhaul and has plans galore designed. The wedding is a magical dream and everything seems as though happily ever after is not a dream after all. Soon there are small feet puttering around the floor, after which these feet turn into bigger feet and soon the bride and groom start to feel less and less happier.
Of course this does not happen to everyone and some people get to live the dream. They fall in love and fifty years down the road they are very much still in love. However, for those planning on the word divorce maybe these tips will help you to rethink it before you do something you can't go back on.
As I said before a divorce could be caused for many reasons and here are a few of them.

A Sex-less Marriage
This happens to be the number one cause of infidelity. When there is no sex in a marriage the marriage cannot exist, there is no gray area in reference to sex between a married couple. You are either having sex or you're not and if you are not, then there is a problem. When no sex becomes the issue, often times anger and resentment will become a huge issue departing a couple from each other even more. If you are often found asking yourself, "How do I change the sexual status of my relationship?" then these tips might help you out so as a couple you can rekindle some old feelings reigniting the flame.
Reasons for lack of interest in sex:
First of all do not think that your partners lack of interest in sex has something to do with you or what you doing. Often times too many spouses blame themselves and it turns out to not be the case at all.

Lack of interest can come from some sort of medical problem and it may be too embarrassing to really discuss even with the other partner.

Sometimes it can have to do with a partner who is dealing with something emotionally, it could be related to work and just causing too much stress.

Depending on how the financial status is going in one's life, this could play a huge role on the lack of interest is sex. When your body is stressed, you end up feeling more tired and in more pain.

Ways to help with your partners
Just listen to your partner, they want to be heard. You should let them talk out their feelings so that way everything is placed out on the table rather than bottled up inside making them a complete wreck. If it is you that needs to talk, tell your partner. It could be the ticket that saves your marriage.

If it becomes an issue of embarrassment about being naked in front of your partner than there are two things in which can be done to resolve it to make your sex life better. First thing, tell your partner. Communication is a door to so many things in your marriage that it can never be shut. Secrecy is not an option, so instead let you partner know what you are feeling. Second, if you are the one feeling self-conscious, try a small diet. It is amazing how much better you can feel just off of losing five pounds.

Infidelity is the issue
Yes, when it comes to being married, and a person has cheated on their spouse there is little cause for a divorce not to take place; however there are reasons that a marriage could last even though a vow has been broken. However, trust has become an even harder issue and with that becomes an extremely harder marriage to keep but it is doable. To allow your marriage the chance at survival you have to start from the beginning. Trust is found within the first year of the relationship and since it's been lost it will take even more time to be found again.
Trust is the first thing that must be reestablished and it is going to be awhile before a spouse is ready to trust their partner again. You both have to feel as though the marriage can last through this hard time because if there are any doubts then the marriage will not have a fair chance of making it.

You must first start very small and basic in your relationship. Talk to each other, possibly date. However, do not allow sex to become something between you as a couple because sex is a pretty emotional issue in a marriage and it can tell one spouse something completely opposite than what the other spouse it thinking or feeling. You should start out very slowly. Take your time. If your marriage is sustainable then it will last through this hard time.
When it comes to rebuilding trust, you each have to try and get back your marriage. Both partners can do things to help it along:

First of all, if you were the spouse who cheated on your partner you have to make sure that no matter what you do you never lie to your spouse. They must know you are being honest with them; any doubt will give false improvement the marriage recovery.

The spouse who was cheated on will become more aware and they will want to know where you are, who you are with and what time you will be home. This is all normal and must be done to be able to redeem a marriage.

Always be on time and if you know you are going to be late at all, call. That is most important.

It doesn't matter if it becomes a daily routine, if your spouse is feeling insecure due to your infidelity it is up to you to support them and be there for them.

Give affection as much as you can, when you pass them in the hall give a small kiss.

Most importantly, spend time with your partner. Do not make them feel as though they are not more important than your friends, than watching some drama show on TV or the sports channel.
Once you have rebuilt trust, you can accomplish many more things.