Respect that Leads to a Successful Relationship

How can successful relationships be created and sustained. Consider this key point whilst reading: Relationships can change from day to day, season to season and year to year.

A good first step in creating a successful relationship and maintaining it is 'respect' for each other.

Many people would agree that love just does not happen instantly but grows from ingredients such as respect. Love is not instant but rather respecting the boundaries of your partner nurtures care and then love comes. If your partner does not respect the things close to your heart such as family, friends and your space how can that relationship last. If she or he does not care about your 'loves' then how can the relationship continue. Of course this is in the absence of people and things which are not allowing your partner to go forward.

Also, if you have no family or friends outside of your relationship then you are not excluded. Simply, because respecting each other is similar to caring for each other.

So for example, your partner asks you questions and your response is always "l don't know". Don't you think you have a problem on your part? You might say well I don't really know so why have I got the problem?

Look at it this way. How often do you take the time to find an answer that your partner has asked in the past. So instead of your partner saying silently 'what does he know' or 'what does she know' - 'always I don't know'. You could be in a position instead where your partner says and recognises that he or she 'does care about what i think'. This is also showing your partner that you are listening to them which is important for any successful relationship. This form of communication (which of course should be two-way) feeds into respecting the other. This is a respect for ideas and needs from your partner. The ideas make up the personality of a person. You are most probably with your partner because of their personality. A successful relationship then can be attributed to our own attitudes and perceptions of your partner.

In pursing a successful relationship there is no harm in looking towards oneself. There are hidden relationship-destroying
patterns within us that need to be recognised and dealt with. These relationship-destroying patterns although not always hidden include selfishness and greed. It is not common to hear one partner go on about 'me me me me me'. In terms of successful relationships such questions include 'what about me', 'why me', 'is it your fault' or more to the point 'its not my fault'. It is this blame culture that has contributed to relationship breakdown. To have any chance of succeeding in your relationships, you must give up wanting to be right, wanting to have your own way, wanting your partner to think and feel exactly as you do, and many other desires. While conflicts in relationships are inevitable and even predictable, the key to successful relationships is how couples resolve these differences. Again, it comes to mind: think before you speak and respect the other person's boundary.

So rather than blaming the other look towards yourself and respect the space, time and feeling. If both are doing this then this will lead to a successful relationship. Imagine what you could achieve if you both served each other. This involves sharing the workload and giving to each other without wanting to receive back. Yes, it is nice to receive but more satisfaction giving. It is no point one person doing the giving. Often one would find that a partner is happy receiving but
never really does any real giving. Over the years this just becomes commonplace where it is the accepted norm. Some wonder why their relationship breaks up unexpectedly thinking that everything was ok.

So to get the balance right it would be useful to take the time to learn of your partners' needs, desires and interests. The next step would be to respect these needs, desires and interests. Remember, respect is a form of care. From this respectful attitude to your partner, you are demonstrating love. This love needs to be nurtured on an ongoing basis. This is the road to an successful relationship.