Reveal Your Beauty on the Inside to Become an Instant Man Magnet

Attraction. We all have our own interpretation of what we find attractive in another person. Those interpretations or ideas will often differ between women and men. As a coach and matchmaker, it is my goal to understand what my clients find attractive when I am searching for their match.

Regardless of my clients gender, level of financial success and physical attractiveness, when asked the question "What makes someone attractive to you?" the response was very similar. Below is a list of what was in common with the 25 single men and women I interviewed over the past few months.

What makes someone attractive to you?

~ Good communication skills

~ Kindness

~ Respect for others

~ Physical appeal

~ Self-confidence

~ Sense of humor

~ Open-mindedness

~ Others focused

Is Attraction all Physical?

Nearly all of the items called out related to one's character and disposition. So where does physical attractiveness fit in, you may ask? Physical attractiveness may be the factor that initially sparks one's interest, but it is not the factor that will keep someone tuned in for the long term and committed to a healthy relationship.

Have you ever encountered someone who you knew very little about, and found them very attractive; then once you came to know this person, their personality, and character made them unattractive to you? How about the opposite? You were not initially attracted to someone, but over time, they "grew on you" and became the object of your affection? What we find physically attractive can be influenced by non-physical factors, such as personality, sense of humor, and the heart of the other person. That is what is often referred to as beauty on the inside or charm.

How to Become Charming

As mentioned in an earlier article on attraction, I listed several factors that make someone "a man magnet." One of those factors was charm. Charm goes beyond looks; it's that "special something" that enables a woman to hold herself taller and with confidence no matter if her hair, body or face is perfect. The elements of charm all relate to inner beauty, and dovetail right into Dale Carnegies Principles mentioned in How to Win Friends and Influence People.

Dale Carnegie's Principles of Charm

Below are a sample of the principles listed by Dale Carnegie that will be a sure fire booster to increase your level of charm. If you put these principles into practice with every person you meet, you will not only become a man magnet, but a people magnet as well.

Become a Friendlier Person

~ Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

~ Give honest, sincere appreciation.

~ Arouse in the other person an eager want.

~ Become genuinely interested in other people.

~ Smile.

~ Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

~ Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

~ Talk in terms of the other person's interests.

~ Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

~ Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

~ Give honest, sincere appreciation.

~ Become genuinely interested in other people.

~ Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

~ Talk in terms of the other person's interests.

~ Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.