Rielle Hunter's April 28 Interview on the Oprah Winfrey Show

When Oprah sat down with an exclusive interview with Rielle Hunter, the mistress of former Presidential candidate John Edwards something came to mind the moment she opened her mouth. In listening to Hunter speak for the entire hour of the interview made me think about the sacrifice many women make to have relationships with married men. In Hunter's case she was fully aware of Edwards being married, but she didn't care she wanted what she could not have and in the process a child was born. This also points out how many women have this idea stuck in their head that the married man they're involved with loves them and wants to be with them. I and many others who watched this embarrassing disaster act put on by a woman who is living in a fantasy world and has no idea that the more she talks the bigger the fool she becomes.

Rielle calls John "Johnny" when I am sure that's what John's wife Elizabeth called him in private, but she acts like a love sick teenager when she's 46 years old and it's very sad to see how she keeps emphasizing her love for Edwards, but this doesn't explain why she got involved with a man who she knew was married. What got to me was how she said the Edwards' marriage had a lot of problems, but when she find it necessary to discuss that when what went on between John and Elizabeth was clearly none of her business and her being involved with John made his marital problems worse.

If you go on You Tube and type in Oprah's interview with Rielle Hunter you'll be shocked at how she keeps going over and over like a broken record talking about how John loves her and their daughter. She keeps believing that she and John will be together when she's delusional and is in dire need of counseling. What left many confused was how Hunter was talking about truth and authenticity and then says she has no regrets for her affair with John Edwards, but isn't responsible for the breakup of his marriage. Not only was that a laugh, but it screams DENIAL because Rielle is a contributing factor in the collapse of the Edwards' marriage and she can't possibly think she can remove herself from the situation without it being called for what it really was. What is really sad is her holding on to the hope of being with John Edwards when it's time for her to admit to herself that he is not wanting to be with her. Rielle's big mistake is falling in love with someone who basically played her with lies and telling her things she wants to hear when it was all empty promises.

Rielle will have to tell her daughter the truth about her father and how he was married when she had her and not only will that make her daughter look at her differently, but it also shows the disregard her mother had for another man's relationship. The reason(s) John wasn't leaving Elizabeth was her illness and their children and that John has been married for 30 years and you can't go and turn off your feelings for someone you've invested decades of your life with and had children with. Rielle is just living a pipe dream if she thinks that she and John Edwards are going to be together. In speaking of truth Rielle was speaking about building a relationship with someone who made the mistake of getting involved with another woman at a crucial time in his life with his wife dealing with a serious illness. Rielle didn't care about Elizabeth she probably viewed her as an 'obstacle' to her path leading to John.

Everyone should be true to themselves, yet it does not constitute selfishly taking whatever you want at someone else's expense. The reality of raising a child alone as a single mother is what Rielle will be dealing with at this point and to utilize this time to reflect on her contribution in the drama that lead to the public humiliation on both hers and John's parts. Rielle may have to seek out counseling to help her work through the issues that motivated her to get involved with a married man. Rielle should have been doing the right thing as a real woman who had morals and respected herself by telling herself that a married man can't offer her much. For anyone who is tempted to have an affair with someone who's married please ask yourself are you willing to be second in someone's life? Are you willing to accept empty promises? Are you willing to degrade and humiliate yourself if the affair went public? These are things someone should ask themselves if they're considering an affair with someone who's married.

Again Rielle comes off as a woman who really isn't concerned with who got hurt in the situation trying to remove herself from the notion that she was the reason for the Edwards' marriage collapsing. This is clearly someone who's not ready to accept the consequences of her actions and believes that getting involved with a married man is OK when it's not. The question is what can a married person offer you in terms of a relationship? The answer is nothing they can't give you what someone who's not married could give to a relationship. Rielle must have been seeking something she didn't get in past relationships that she saw in John Edwards, but her problem was that he was married and was off limits. This poses an even bigger problem because Rielle is not the only woman who has this mentality a lot of women who are involved with married men think that the man loves them and he wants to be with them. Most married men do not leave their wives for another woman that's a known fact....and few ever do. It's sad that women put themselves in the position believing a married man's promises of leaving his wife and making a life with her when it's all empty promises.

Rielle evading Oprah's question about her relationship with John at this point just made people think even more low of her because she said "I'm a very private person" and "I need boundaries". Rielle needed to go back to those two statements and think about what she just said. How can she be private when she took to doing interviews discussing the relationship and she's no saint in the area of boundaries because she crossed that a long time ago when she engaged in an inappropriate relationship with a married man and a child came of that relationship. The GQ interview Rielle did when she did the photo spread of her wearing nothing, but a man's dress shirt, a pearl necklace and lace panties sitting on a bed surrounded by stuffed animals that belonged to her daughter Quinn gave people the impression that she was trying to rub this in Elizabeth Edwards' face as her way of saying "I got your husband".

Numerous reports came out saying Edwards was "disgusted" by that and in the March 29^th issue of People magazine sources close to John and Elizabeth Edwards say that Rielle is delusional and living in a fantasy world because she believes that she and John will be together when according to the article John is reportedly no longer seeing Rielle and visits with his daughter Quinn through a neutral party and always alone with the child Rielle is not present. Average people who followed the story from the start could easily say that Rielle Hunter is a woman living in a delusional fantasy world. This seems to be the same old thing that women who have affairs with married men have this delusional feeling that once the man leaves his wife everything will be happily ever after.

It's not always like that because giving the fact that some men have been married for so long that you can't go and turn off those feelings and turn on for someone else when you've established a history with that person, you share children, and you've made a life with them. Rielle may have thought that John would marry her, but giving how the situation played out she's the one who got played and is now stuck raising a child by a man who she knew the whole time was married so for her to try and defend her actions it's pointless because people are looking at the situation and the people involved and a child who's a victim to all this. Rielle was reportedly upset about the photos that appeared in the recent issue of GQ, but as a filmmaker she should know that you review what you want shown. The photo of her in shirt and panties and wearing a midriff and sweats holding Quinn were not appropriate because that in itself made the current situation that much worse.

You don't see John Edwards giving any interviews because he doesn't want to continue hurting those around him he already hurt and humiliated so he's doing the right thing by laying low and handling his business pertaining to his children. Whatever Rielle is thinking she really needs to just get over herself and take the experience and hopefully another woman will benefit by listening to another woman telling her that having an affair with another woman's husband is not right and you're the one who gets hurt in the end. The question is why Rielle couldnt get a man who's single and available instead of desiring after another woman's husband when she knew full well he was married? Quinn will one day ask her mother when she's older as to why she pursued a married man instead of one who was single and available. Quinn will learn about her mother's behavior through the countless articles and blogs that were done when the affair became public. Girls learn from their mother how to conduct themselves as ladies and if Rielle has any kind of moral decency as a woman she will educate her daughter that getting involved with married and involved men is wrong and that you not only hurt yourself, but other people get hurt as well.