Rihanna Speaks Out but Did She Lie About Hitting Chris Brown

It is a very frustrating situation because woman do abuse men all the time, but men do not bother reporting it. There are numerous reports that say Rihanna became enraged when she saw a text message from another woman to Chris. She admits that part, but states that she was sick or tired of him lying and was simply insisting that he be honest with her when the incident occurred. Rihanna speaks out but did she lie about hitting Chris Brown?

There are a few things that should be considered here, first of all, the courts obviously took into consideration the fact that Rihanna did throw the first blow. And secondly, Chris Brown, although what he did was extremely violent and inexcusable, has admitted openly and repeatedly what his did.

After the brutal incident Rihanna told police that Chris had beaten her in the past, according to police reports made immediately after the incident. This sounds like anger talking immediately after the beating because she later refused to help police with the investigation, which sounds like guilt. Why or what guilt? If she in fact initiated the abuse and provoked the beating by hitting him several times while he was driving she may feel responsible, meaning, deep down inside she may be thinking if I did not hit him none of this would have happened.

Now, Rihanna says that after being blinded by love and taking Chris back she realized the effect her decision could have on her fans, and that is what made her end their relationship. Well, going back to someone who abuses you is a bad message, and if she said that he had beaten her before, yet they were still together when the February 8^th incident happened; she already is a negative role model.

What about Rihanna refusing to help with the investigation, and not wanting to press charges after being beaten until she was bloody and swollen. Many woman report the incident initially because they are angry and their emotions are out of control, and then later change their minds. To prove this point, one report says that, Rihanna stated that she did not want to testify because she had a change of heart. These "changes of hearts" is why the domestic abuse laws have changed over the years, and it is no longer up to the woman, or person that was abused, to decide whether or not charges will be filed.

Interestingly, Rihanna said she decided to end the relationship for her fans benefit and the benefit of other girls and woman, but then went on to say she could not say whether or not she would ever go back to Chris because no one knows what the future holds. What? Basically, her statements and actions in the past tell a different story. If this incident was not public and she had no fans that she may influence negatively it is very likely she would probably still be in a relationship with Chris Brown right now.

Initially, seeing the photo of Rihanna, and then listening to Chris Brown's repeated apologies made me angry at him. However, evaluating the situation, watching Rihanna's body language as she did her interviews, and listening closely to her statements and reasoning gives a clearer picture.

Rihanna admitted seeing a text from another woman while they were in the car together, but it seems she did lie about lashing out and hitting Chris Brown first. Her explanation just does not cut it, she probably was so angry about it that she did not just ask him to be honest, and he turned into a mad man and began beating her. It is more likely that her emotions took control, she probably felt jealous, hurt, angry, frustrated, and reacted by physically attacking him. Sadly, she probably never imagined that he could become so angry and soulless, as she put it, to lose control they way he did.

It seems we have to people here that have an issue with self-control, and that is not saying that Chris Brown's violence was justified because he was wrong; but Rihanna has her own issues to come to terms with as well. No woman has a right to hit a man, and vise versa, but it is unfair to say that when a woman does hit a man because he is physically stronger he should or could just walk away. Abuse is wrong no matter who the abuser is, what gender they are, or how big or small they may be; we have to learn and exercise self-control no matter how hurt or angry we become.

We are all humans and no matter who we are if attacked our instincts are to fight back, and that is not to say violence or abuse is right or justified it is simply stating a fact about human nature. Men are abused by woman more than we would like to believe, but it happens everyday. Some woman believe it is cute or okay to slap a man in the face because he is supposed to be a man and turn the other cheek.

Chris Brown has taken the blame for everything that happened that night, and yes he did the most damage. Rihanna speaks out but did she lie about hitting Chris Brown? If she is lying she really needs to come clean with herself, and get help too. There is no such thing as you hit him first and got what you deserved, and yes there are comments like this floating around the Internet, but they are from people who are ignorant. Violence, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and physical abuse is never justified, period.

Love does not hurt! If you are in a relationship and believe the other person is cheating, lying, disrespecting or abusing you understand this, you cannot control another human being, but you can control how you choose to deal with it. If you decide to stay you are living in a very dangerous situation, the best thing to do is get out, end it, and move on.