Rise Above the Herd

In my own observation and experience, I detect that many people enjoy arguments because it makes them feel superior to another. In effect, it lifts them up while putting another person down, reinforcing their high opinion of themselves at the cost of another person. So, if someone starts an argument, don't get mad or attempt to get even, just go away - you'll like yourself better for it and your response will take the power away from the instigator. Not only that, but if you want harmony, laying down your arms is the best way to achieve it.

Drama begins with one person starting an argument, then that dispute is responded to, which puffs up the gloating of the initiator who then thinks, "Now I can say even more!" However, wouldn't it be far more admirable to say to oneself, "I'm not a child, any fool can continue this cycle of one-upmanship, but I want to rise above it and to let it go?"

Other people may be wrong, but they don't think so, which is why arguments only spiral into the gutter with no clear winner, because there aren't winners when the finger pointing commences.

Besides, who has the right to sit on their high horse and point out the obvious? Wouldn't diplomacy accomplish the desired results? Such tact would soften a heart while condescending criticism would only harden it. I am more willing to listen to another person's viewpoint if they deliver their message with a little novocain, which sends me the message that while I'm not above constructive criticism, at least they place enough value in me as person to be kind and respectful.