Romance After the Honeymoon

After you have been married for some time things seem to settle into a routine. If you both are not careful, one of you may get bored and look outside the marriage for the excitement and adventure you once shared together while you were dating. It's even worse when kids are involved and one of you is spending more time with them than on yourselves. The secret to almost all successful marriages is romance and keeping ourselves and spouses first, even before the kids. Keeping the romance alive is extremely important and you can with small efforts everyday.

You should never stop doing the things you used to before the kids came along. If you used to go out on a regular basis, by all means continue to do so. You may not be able to do it all the time but just do it. Ask a friend or family member to baby-sit and go out for a romantic dinner or a movie you both want to see. You are not being bad parents by spending alone time with each other. If anything, you are being better parents by nurturing and growing your love for each other. While you're out don't worry about the kids or wait for the cell phone to ring. Relax and enjoy each others company and conversation.

While the two of you were dating, you were always touching each other in small and subtle ways. What ever stopped that from continuing? Keep holding hands or putting your arms around one another. Keep making those soft, subtle touches even when you think your partner doesn't notice. I am forever touching my wife throughout the day. Trust me. I don't think she notices all the time but you can be sure she notices when I don't.

When you get home from work be sure to say hello and give your partner a kiss. Show them that you missed them throughout your day and were thinking about them have excitement in your voice that you are with them and not away at work. Being with the one you love should always be a reason to smile. No matter how tired you are or how difficult the work day has been, your spouse is there for you.

You can do little things too that will keep romance alive at home. A love note placed on the bathroom mirror or taped on the steering wheel of the car is a nice surprise for your love. Do the unexpected small things you used too when you were dating. Just because life happens, children are born, and work must be done does not mean that romance must be put on hold.

Continually doing the things you did while dating will keep the romance alive in your marriage. Making sure that your spouse knows you are thinking of them and cherish them will maintain a healthy, happy marriage that will last forever. Communicate both verbally and non verbally how much you love each other everyday. Doing this, you will have a happy marriage and keep the romance after the honeymoon is long over.