Romantic Journey to My Wedding

Marriages are made in heaven is a popular belief in India. Two people from different family back ground, different geographical location, different economical back ground, when meet and come together in wed lock is totally driven by destiny. So the popular belief is based on the above principles. Indian marriages are totally different from western marriages. Marriage I believe changes one's destiny. There is a saying, behind every successful man there is a woman. So the story revolves around me and my beloved wife. Without her today I cannot think a single moment.

Selection procedures
Indian marriages unlike in western world the bride is selected by the bridegroom's parents. The journey of marriage starts from getting information about the eligible, young girls who have reached marriageable age . This information is brought by certain mediators or marriage broker's who brings the proposal about the young bride to the boy's house. Then the photos of the girl along with her bio data and horoscope are given to the boy's parents. The horoscope is submitted to their family priest, who studies both the boy's and girl's horoscope and when the horoscope matches then the proposal is taken seriously. The boy's parents or elders visit the girl's place and when liked by them, the boy goes to see the girl. If he likes her, then the proposal takes in turn towards engagement and finally the wedding knot is tied.

Proposal rejected
If the boy does not like or his parents not happy with the proposal then the proposal is rejected. And again the same procedure is taken place. This is a typical Indian marriage.

My story
I have seen in my family how the cruel selection process, the rejected girl's mental state and agony she under goes. The trauma the young girl under going is very difficult to understand. One who under goes the treacherous ordeal can only understand the feeling of pain , it really breaks the girl's mental strength, she some times is blamed for the ill luck that has brought to the family. During proposal process is the girl dreams, she lives in a fantasy, but when she is rejected, and her whole world crushes on her feet. She wonders how she is going to live, she thinks as a burden to her family. Some times she is out classed in her own family. The neighbors and other relatives put pressure on the parents to give her in marriage some how. Then she is left with no choice. And she is given in marriage to not very suitable boy and her whole life is turned in to a misery and left as a child bearing machine.

Having seen this ordeal very closely with my near & dear ones, I decided that I will not allow this cruel procedure repeated by me . I took an oath to my self that I will see only one girl and which ever girl I will see will be my bride, my life partner and I shall remain with her in joy, sorrow, pain, agony, in despair, in good or bad time.

At the time of my marriage I was working in a MNC company as a junior officer. One day my father went to get his pension to his old office. As I have earlier wrote that marriages are made in heaven. And that proverb hold good in my case. My father met my would be wife's uncle , who happens to be my father's old colleague .Both of them have not met each other for a long time. So when they met both they sat with a cup of coffee and discussed about many things , how is the life going after retirement, health matters, and so on so forth. At last my would be wife uncle asked my father what I was doing? My father told him that I was working in a MNC company and still not married. Then her uncle gave a surprised to my father that his niece is the right candidate for me.

My father who had gone to have his pension, immediately rush to my would be wife's place of work after taking his pension , had a long chat with her and there it self mentally prepared for my marriage with her. After my mother and my sister-in law saw her . We were invited by her father to visit her place, my self my parents went to her place. In a traditional way my wife came with light coloured sareeh and we both saw each other for the first place and fell in love at sight. Then after that to me it seem that the world has stopped revolving , sun stop shining, birds stopped flying. To me world had come to stop. I felt as if I am not in this world but reached the sky and I am with fairy and most beautiful fairy is with me. We were allowed to converse. After a brief conversation with her I felt so homely & friendly that immediately I told my parents she is my perfect match to me and want to marry her only as I was at ease without the feeling of any stranger with & there only.

In 15 days we got engaged, I took my would be bride to the best hotel in the town. We spend together for long time till late in the evening, that was the moment I shall cherish whole of my life, till my death. After our engagement I was awaiting for the evening to come so that I can meet her spend time with her. I was in the cloud ninth. And later after one month I was given marriage to my wife. She is the WOMEN of my life and my Wife. It was dream come true. Yes in my case the proverb came true.