Say No to Divorce

What ever happened to the good ol' days? How did we ever get here anyway? These are the thoughts of someone who is having marital struggles or is facing a divorce. Often times the problems started long before the action of a divorce comes about. The thought of divorce may be in the back of your for quite sometime, but what makes a person finally snap and get the divorce? It's not your spouse it is the devil. The bible says that the devil comes only to seal, kill and destroy. He hates seeing people happy and will do whatever it takes to cast out that happiness. God created marriage, and He hates divorce. If you have been feeling like your marriage is failing and you want to save it, chances are those aren't just your feelings but your calling. We often wonder what are we supposed to do in this life? What is our purpose? God could be calling you into the ministry of Marriage Restoration. I know now, after facing a divorce myself that God has called me to intercede and stand in the gap for my husband because He has plans to prosper us. I know that one day my testimony will reach millions of people, and if I could help save just one marriage from ending in divorce then my mission is complete.

A year ago I was going through a divorce, until finally something inside kept nagging me to go reconcile with my spouse. Of course when I did it wasn't nearly as easy as I thought it would be because he no longer wanted me back. According to him, he had moved on and was done with this marriage. I am proud to say this year that we are still legally married and have another child together born exactly a year to the date we initially went to court to battle it out. Now lets go back to a year ago, I was so devastated, how could he not want me? All Christians can remember when God reached out and "called" them. This was my time. I was led to a online Restoration Ministry and that is where my journey began. I had never met so many people who were encouraging and supportive and knew exactly what I was going thru. The Ministry offered so much help and support, a community where us as standers can all come together and share our experiences and learn the promises of God together.

See as a stander for marriage restoration there are many principals to follow. I know that seems odd, but they are nothing short of the regular everyday principals that we should be following as Christians anyway. The bible teaches us to love one another even when we think they do not deserve to be loved. We are also commanded to love our spouses unconditionally. That means choosing to love them, despite how they may treat us. You see, I have been through a lot over the past year, and many people that know me wonder how I have been so happy, so kind, and so kept together through all the drama. My answer to them: God! He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow and His promises will be fulfilled. God has not once let me down, and I know He will not let me down now either.

When I started this journey, I asked God why do I have to do this? But His answer was "it's not about you, it's about Me." In Ephesians, God used Moses to speak to Pharaoh, instructing him to let the people of Israel go. God also allowed for Pharaoh's heart to be hardened, after many bad things and plagues swept over the Egyptians, Pharaoh still didn't want to acknowledge God and just how powerful He was. God allowed Pharaohs heart to be hard on purpose so that when Pharaoh would finally decided to let the people go God would be glorified most high. That is the way I look at my mountain of marriage circumstances. Things are happening that appear impossible to other people yet I know that God is going to move, and when God does what he does best and restores the union He created He will be glorified. His power will be magnified, and people will see that nothing is impossible with God and that He rebuilt what was ruined.

I have been a stander for my marriage since January of 2008. I will no longer allow the enemy to steal, kill or destroy my marriage and family. Divorce doesn't stand a chance against God. I know if you are facing separation and divorce you didn't click on this article by chance. God has orchestrated this just for you. Divorce doesn't have to be an option anymore, there is power in a praying spouse and it's time we exercise our authority as children of the King. It is time to say no to divorce and be reminded that God heals hurting marriages. I bet if you got on your knees and asked your Lord today to fix your marriage, make it the marriage that He intended for it to be things will start to change all around you. When I began standing I didn't have a clue, I had never really read my bible before, I didn't know how to hear God and I didn't completely trust that God could or would fix my marriage. Now, I know what the Lord has said and that His word does not return void.

Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen, the bible says we are to live by faith and not by sight. We cannot ask God for something but then doubt in our heart that it will come to pass otherwise that is living outside of faith. This is something that I had to come to terms with, because I didn't have anyone around me to support me. My friends and family think I am crazy and your friends and family may think you are too. Only you know what God is putting in your heart, and surely it isn't to divorce your spouse. I encourage you right now if you are having marital problems, facing separation or divorce, or are already divorced to get on your knees and pray to God to restore your dead marriage. Read your bible, visit the online restoration ministries, and start taking a stand against the enemy for your marriage.

The journey has just begun, only God holds your future and He doesn't want you to get divorced, your children don't want you to get divorced. Take this call from God as an open invitation to get to know Him better, trust him with your life, and your marriage and you will see some amazing results manifest.