Secondary Infertility: More Common Than You Might Think

Secondary infertility is a problem faced by 1 out of every 5 new mothers. Although at first, it does not seem like a huge problem and it can be dealt with quite easily, the truth is that it can impact your life just as much as infertility without any children. Secondary infertility not only affects possible long-term plans and dreams but it can destroy a woman's self-confidence and her idea of femininity. The stress caused by the understanding of not being able to have children can be overbearing and may require professional treatment in severe cases.

Secondary infertility is defined as the loss of ability to have subsequent children after the first child is born. www.pregnancy-info.net claims that 60% of all infertility cases are secondary infertility. As mentioned already, so many people don't see this as a problem that there are not a lot of professionals who are trained to deal with relieving the pressures and conflicts associated with the diagnosis.

The biggest factor is all in the stress that develops from the broken dreams and plans that will never come to fruition. The loss of femininity and the feelings of being a woman are also common. Feelings that your partner may decide to leave you for someone who can bear children occur when this is diagnosed. The strain put on both partners in the relationship can be overwhelming and has been the cause of more than one divorce, not because of the condition itself, but because of the stress that leaks into other aspects of life.

Psychological problems are not the only cause for concern. Secondary infertility is often because of deep physical problems and symptoms. Among the physical problems that can plague a woman are unusual vaginal discharges, burning sensations, painful menstrual periods, and miscarriages.

The best way to cope with this problem is to seek professional help, psychologically and physically. This professional help can provide you with the best resources for dealing with the issues before they have a chance to get out of control.

Infertility support groups can provide help in your emotional well-being, whether you are the woman or her partner. There are specialty support groups just for women dealing with secondary infertility. The groups that include those with primary infertility can be difficult to work with in that the primaries without any children can harvest resentment for your one child and see you as not having as big a problem as them.

The stress of secondary infertility can be managed in several ways. First, you should try to keep your sense of humor. Secondly, you should continue to enjoy life and try to look at the future with optimism. Be grateful for the child you do have and think about how you would feel without any children at all. Other ways to treat the stress is to eat right, exercise regularly, and continue to enjoy sex if it is physically possible.

In trying to deal with the pain, it is always good to have someone to talk to. That someone should be you partner with whom you must be open at all times. Let your emotions out and don't hold back. Don't bottle up your feelings or keep your thoughts locked within yourself. You are each other's best support in life.

Make sure that your diagnosis is correct. Infertility can be reversible in some instances. Many times, it is stress causing the problem, so relaxing and keeping a positive outlook can work wonders. Get a second opinion, start to exercise, try having a child again. Just don't breakdown if it turns out it is not possible after all.

Acupuncture has shown to be able to help with infertility problems and with the stress that are caused by them. Seek a licensed professional and talk to them about your problems. If he has a program to help you, try it out. The ancient practice of acupuncture has helped millions of people throughout the ages and it may be able to help you as well.

Keep the option of adoption open. Adopting can be a very rewarding and loving experience. This new addition to your family will bring joy just as a biological child. These children often need your help and you could be saving them from severe poverty or social problems.

Be open to making new plans and adjusting your lifestyle. Think about how much you love your family and your life now. Is it really so bad to maintain that same level of happiness? If you need something to help you keep busy, go back to school, take up a hobby, or otherwise find a creative outlet for your energy that will make you feel good about yourself again.

Dealing with secondary infertility is an amazingly huge problem that most people do not recognize. I have personally experienced the pain that it can bring as it was a major problem in my own marriage. It took years to overcome the plans that I had for my life and my wife as well. She had a beautiful girl from her previous marriage, however together we couldn't conceive. The difficulties run not only for the woman but the couples together.