Secrets to a Happy Marriage

The secret to a happy marriage is really no secret, it takes hard work. But the rewards are well worth the time spent investing in the marriage. When you say those two little words, " I do." , they should be said with the realization that you "will" for the rest of your married life! With that in mind, there are five rules you should never break in the secret to a happy marriage. These rules are really no secret, they will pretty much come naturally, if you actually love the person that you married and you have the heartfelt desire to keep a happy marriage.

1. The most important secret to a happy marriage is communication. Your husband should be your best friend, the one person in the world that you can go to with your deepest and darkest secrets. Your husband will not judge you nor condemn you for anything that you share with him. In return, you should be willing to listen to your husband, and never judge him, by what he may tell you. This open line of communication within your marriage, will leave no room for lies or deceit.

2. Never take your partner for granted. Treat every day as if it might be your last. Always tell him/her that you love them, make sure that this is the last thing that they hear before parting. It doesn't matter if it is before going to sleep, going to work or going to the store. Let your husband/wife know how much you appreciate their contribution to the marriage. Thank your wife for the way that she cooks a meal, thank your husband for his thoughtfulness, when he takes out the trash. A happy marriage depends on this rule!

3. This is one rule that is of most importance, in the secret to a happy marriage. Always, always, let your partner know that you find them attractive. If your wife is sitting on the couch, in her granny gown, with no make-up on, look at her and tell her she is beautiful. She will know that this is not the truth, but she will love you all the more! Do the same for your husband. When he comes home from work all stinky, dirty and grimy, look at him and say how sexy you think he is. He will know you have seen him at his worst, but still love what you see! You both need to feel attractive in the others eyes. A happy marriage depends on these few simple words.

4. Don't be afraid to argue. Even the best marriages have knock down, drag outs! This helps to clear the air of minor frustrations, and makes you that much closer in the end, when make-up time comes around. Make-up sex is the best! Sometimes the sex is even better, if you are still a little mad at your spouse. Try it sometime, and see how quickly the anger melts! Just be careful that when you argue, you don't speak words that can't be taken back. Think, before you speak! A good secret to a happy marriage is to never go to bed angry at each other.

5. Always make time for each other. Never make your partner feel like they are slighted. Your wife/husband is the most important thing in your life! Never make them feel like they come in second. A job is just that, a job. Your husband or your wife, is your life partner. Even when your family is in high demand, squeeze out a few private moments, with your partner, if only for a hug and a cuddle. Your marriage will thrive if you make quality time for each other.

Trust me on this. With age comes wisdom. Never break these simple rules, and you will know the secret to a happy marriage!