Self Defence Philosophy

Most people have rules for living. Sometimes we derive them from Religions and other moral codes, other times we go by simple 'gut feel' about what we believe to be right or wrong.

Personal philosophy is a very sensitive thing so I will not attempt to outline any recommendations. However, from a Martial Arts point of view a strict moral code is relevant - indeed, essential - in order to train and conduct oneself in a fulfilling, satisfactory way.

The simplest way of putting this is as follows:

As far as is possible, treat other people exactly the same way as you would like to be treated yourself . Respect others and respect yourself as well.

If everyone observed this principle it can be argued that this world would be a much better place to live in. From the Martial Artist's perspective, this involves exercising restraint in everything one does. If one defends oneself against an attacker or threat, this must be done in a disciplined, controlled manner. Indeed, 'over enthusiasm' in defending oneself can actually cause more trouble with the law, etc. Only use the minimum amount of force necessary on an opponent/attacker.

Think of it this way, every human being is worth something. Every human being has good aspects to them-this is a fact. Every human being is valued by somebody, somewhere in the world. If you are in a situation where somebody has attacked you, obviously you will need to do everything in your power to safeguard yourself. Once you are certain you are in a safe situation - once the threat is neutralised - there is no need to continue to inflict any more unnecessary damage to the opponent.

This is easier said than done, I know all too well. But a good technique for doing this, which one should strive to employ in as many situations as possible in everyday life, is to imagine the attacker is somebody special or important to you. Or even imagine the opponent is you at a different stage of your life. We all know people who are close to us who have wronged other people. Many of us have, ourselves, wronged or harmed others. Although someone we care for may do wrong, we still would wish them to be treated mercifully and with restraint. Much as we would hope for ourselves to be treated - in a similar situation.

This does not mean we reject the concept of justice - or of retribution. It just means we support humane treatment of all people and all things, even when justice is being carried out. This is what it means to be human and to be civilised. So we should do the same when we are in a position of strength. We lose absolutely nothing by doing this. And who can say what future goodwill may come of this. Especially if you make the person aware that you are being merciful and showing restraint, when you could easily have inflicted more harm.

This borders on the debate about forgiveness and letting go of hurt, which is a massive topic of debate which we couldn't possibly do justice to in this sort of forum.