Senior Dating: Seeking Companionship Over 50

Nikki Phipps
Who said dating was just for the young? If you're over 50 and feeling lonely due to the loss of a loved one or divorce, why not consider dating again. This could be the opportune time for you to explore fresh and exciting venues for your remaining years while possibly finding a new companion to spend them with. In fact, many people fail to realize that just because you're over the age of fifty doesn't mean you're without all the same emotional (and physical) needs as those who are much younger.

No matter what your reason is for dating, always be honest with yourself as with others. Make it clear to the other person what type of relationship you are seeking. If you are looking for a serious relationship or simply companionship, say so. If you're simply between relationships and not looking for anything serious, have fun with it, but be certain the other party wants the same thing as well. Also, if you have health issues that may affect the relationship be honest and upfront about this too.

There are numerous paths seniors can take when dating. There's always the traditional dating of boy meets girl. The difference here is the place in which you meet one another today as opposed to when you were younger. Instead of meeting in school or hooking up at a party, perhaps you'll meet your new companion at a social event such as church, bingo, or the park. Then again, different times call for different techniques. With the ever-popular World Wide Web, online dating has made meeting people easier, and it doesn't matter where you are located. In fact, you never even have to leave your house. This type of dating is not strictly for the youngsters either. Senior citizens are quickly becoming one of the fastest growing demographic sectors online today.

As with any type of dating, safety is always a concern, especially for those over 50. There will always be unsavory characters out there who will try to trick you into revealing personal information in order to scam you. Therefore, never divulge that information until you feel sure it is safe to do so. For seniors dating online, when you are ready to take the relationship to another level and want to meet face to face, be sure the meeting takes place in a public setting and always let someone else know where you are at all times. In fact, have this person call to make sure you're alright and to verify your safe return home. Always include your family and friends in your dating ventures. Having a strong support system behind you to encourage you and keep you motivated is an important factor in maintaining a positive outlook as well as increasing your security.

The great thing about dating over 50 is that you've gone through more life experiences such as marriage, children, widowhood, retirement, etc. and know exactly what you want and expect from others as well as what you're looking for in a partner. You may also be set in your ways and unwilling to compromise; therefore, try seeking someone that shares your interests. At this point in your life it doesn't pay to waste time on someone you have nothing in common with. While physical attraction is often an important factor in most dating relationships, as you get older this tends to lessen. Friendship or companionship becomes more important and nothing is as satisfying as having someone to share all of your passions with.

No matter what your age, dating brings with it challenges. However, senior dating offers one benefit younger generations do not have-experience. You've most likely already been there, done that. You have a deeper understanding of what love and commitment are all about. You have a deeper appreciation for life; live it to the fullest, you only get one chance.

Published by Nikki Phipps

Nikki is a freelance writer and copy editor who enjoys sharing insights on gardening, parenting, writing and more. She is the lead garden writer for Gardening Know How, and the author of three gardening book...  View profile

  • Just because you're over the age of fifty doesn't mean you're without all the same needs as those who are much younger.
  • There are numerous paths seniors can take when dating.
  • With any type of dating, safety is always a concern, especially for those over 50. There will always be unsavory characters out there trying to scam you.

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  • Doris Brown5/23/2009

    I am 74 and met a few gentlemen but not the "right one" but would like to - to share life's ups and downs, interests, opinions, the gamut. I like lone times but I also would like have someone around to fix a lunch and dine with, to pamper, etc. In other words, I'd like to be helpful and be helped when times require it, although I am self sufficient., Is there someone who can relate to all that? I hope so.

  • Sherl Powell10/11/2008

    I love your articles but when it comes to dating at 54 I am scared to death. It seems my self-esteem I had so much of when younger just flies out the window at the thought of dating. Online dating sounds good because if the person u talk to is truthful then u get a chance to know them before the MEETING. I am lonely but at times I enjoy that feeling of no one but me. Here lately it is not so fun to do all things alone and my 5 grown kids have forgotten me. I am not meant to be alone.

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