Serve No Partner Before It's Time

I am sick and tired of hearing men and or women, group all women/men as the same. When a man or a woman does this, it is because they were burnt in some sense or another. The reason or how is of no importance! The reality behind it all is simple though! If one doesn't put them self in a situation to be burnt, they won't! Plain and simple! Here is my theory on all of this!

Too many people are looking for quick fixes to being lonely. They find their fix by hooking up with a partner so they can feel connected to what they deem as some sort of societal status. God forbid should a person be single! It is almost as if you are wearing a sign-telling people, 'I am a loser'! Please!!! Whatever! Nevertheless, you hear your family, friends, acquaintances', co-workers, fellow church members, and total complete strangers at a bar strangers at a bar say things like "What? You're still single?" or "So, do you have a special someone in your life?" As if those things are the basic requirements for survival, and with out it you may as well buy your plot! Single plot that is!

Well, here is the thing, between society's approval of another being based of your relationship status and the single people's inabilities to be happy being with themself, you have a recipe for disaster!

A single person could have the best job, furnishings, financially stable, tons of friends, and a great supportive family, and yet still never feel totally happy unless they are partnered up! Regardless if it means being partnered with someone, anyone, no matter how dysfunctional or crazy the other person may be or not be, they are more content.

When a person measures their self worth through their relationship status alone is selling them self short! One is not put on this earth solely for being hitched up!

I hear so many people who say they "need" or "want" a man/woman. When I ask them why they feel this way, the general reply is because they are "lonely", regardless of being surrounded by family and friends, work and all else the world has to offer! Yet, in their mind, the only way to fill that "void", is to be partnered up with some one.

This leads to where I feel the problem lays! If one cannot be happy with them self and enjoy their own company when no one else is around to entertain them, how could they ever really make a partner happy? If one was to partner up with this type of individual, it is already bound to fail be cause the lonely person is seeking their total fulfillment from the other! They are placing too much expectation on the unknowing partner. The lonely partner's needs and satisfaction of the relationship is based off how interactive their partner is with them! If he or she should fail to call on a regular basis, or spend time with the lonely person, automatically the lonely partner fears doom! They start thinking something is wrong, that they either did something wrong, are no longer wanted or being cheated, etc. Reality may be any of those, or simply that the new partner actually had a life before meeting up with the lonely partner and isn't as needy.

The whole situation begins to spiral out of control causing the inevitable end to something that never stood a chance to begin with due to the lonely partners's inability to find their own true sense of happiness. Adding a partner to one's life should compliment it, not complete it, or fill some void! It is only when one feels they have no voids to fill that they are ready to add a compliment to it!

Like at a barbeque, would you dress your burger before it was cooked the way you liked it?