Seven Ways to Fight Fair
Here Are Gudelines to Help You Have Healthy Fights
What does a fair fight look like? Here are seven guidelines:
1. Define and discuss the problem rather than blaming and criticizing each other.
2. Stay on topic. Talk about the current issue rather than issues from the past.
3. Speak in a moderate tone and volume. Yelling only makes things worse.
4. Leave out foul language and name calling.
5. Be respectful with your nonverbal communication, no sneering or rolling of eyes.
6. Take responsibility. Own what part of the situation is your responsibility.
7. Keep your hands to yourself. Hitting, pushing, or shoving are off limits.
When a fight continues longer then 15 minutes you both probably need a time out to cool down. These kinds of fights can escalate. Try to talk again, when you are both calm. If one or both of you are consistently unable to follow these guidelines, seek professional help.
THE GOOD NEWS IS: You now have a model of fair fighting. Fair fighting will help you solve conflicts easier and faster.
Published by Debra Joy Goldman
Debra Joy Goldman MS, LMHC Recognized as a leading counselor and educator in the South Florida area, Debra specializes in counseling individuals and couples and facilitating a series of "Women in Healing... View profile
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