Sex and the Christian World

I have too often seen in the church that sex is such a 'bad' thing. It is a forbidden hush hush thing that is gasped at when mentioned. I don't really think that God intended it to be that way. Sex is an art to me. It is beautiful and should be shared between people who love one another. If sex is suppose to be a natural God-given pleasure, then why is there so much controversy with it? I will say it like this, first of all it is what society has made it to be. That is why sex is such a touchy, forbidden topic. It shouldn't be.

Society has painted a really nasty picture of what sex is suppose to be. It has been made to something that you just flaunt around for instant gratification, so it's a wonder why the church is so touchy about it. Sex is beautiful when two hearts are joined. Not to be thrown around like trash.

There are people in the church that gasp at the pastor when he begins talking about the subject. I say this, if you feel uncomfortable about the subject, then you are suffering from your own personal sexual problems right there in your own marriage or relationship. You should not feel uncomfortable about talking about sex, really. I mean there is a limit. It can become a vulgar and sickening subject, as society portrays. Yet, talking about it and the basics is nothing to blush about.

I heard a minister ask this lady once, and jokingly, if her and her husband shared a bed together. The lady just gasped. I mean it was a simple and general question that could have been funny, but she took it in another way. You know why? She was having a hard time dealing with her own sexual life with her husband. She was embarrassed and ashamed when he asked her and that is why she withdrew from the question. This is not healthy for any Christian or for people in general, Christian or not.

Sex should be enjoyable and clean. When I say clean I mean talking about it in a general manner behind the pulpit. I heard one sister say once that we need to live as a saint but be a devil in the bed. Okay I know what many of you are thinking and I suggest that you hear me out before the steam goes rolling out of your ears.

When two people are in love and they feel comfortable about making love then it could be whatever they are comfortable doing. Somethings aren't comfortable and yes even though he/she may be a spouse, you still may not be comfortable with them. That is very unhealthy and will cause a marriage to fail. Many women are forbidden to bring the subject up because of her husband's insecurities, therefore she must just go on and be the good Christian wife that she needs to be and not express how she feels. I say NOT. Ladies there is a way out of that kind of marriage.

You need to feel loved, appreciated and most importantly comfortable in making love to your husband. If you don't there is a problem. You need to try to talk to him about it and if that doesn't work, give it to the Lord. He will definitely get you out of that situation.

Thanks to Kim Linton. I am on my way to writing my book. This is the first step/outline, if you will.

Sex is a beautiful thing and is natural and God given. Love should pour from your heart as you make love. If it doesn't, it is wrong. That is how I see it. It is not about just physical pleasure but most importantly an expression of love in the most extreme.

For a beautiful story of love and sex you can read the Bible's Song of Solomon. This was a man of God who sought wisdom and indeed a very wise man he was.