Sex for Seniors

In a recent study on "sex in the later years" the survey shows that 87% of married men and 84% of married women in the 60-65 agr group are sexually active. Sex is the new fountain of youth, it's good for you physically and mentally; It stimulates your body and is a great form of exercise and stimulates your mind which promotes mental wellness. Sex for the elderly can actually increase their mortality with a study showing that two orgams a week can prolong their lifespan.

The human body goes through many changes as it begins to age with one of the drawbacks being that both women and men can experience a slow-down in their sexual drive. For some couple, this can lead to anxiety which, in turn, can develop into a very sad or non-existant sex life. This is a very sad state and for those who are now bordering on a sexless life due to age it is time for you to understand the physical reasoning behind this. If you understand, then you can begin to change your attitude and enjoy fully sexual and satisfying relationship which is essential for your health as well as your mentality.

The physical changes in elderly women include dryness of the vagina, less elasticity of the labia, orgasm may become painful due to uterine contractions and the clitoris can become very sensitive. The physical changes in men include slowling down during erection, delays in erection, slower orgasms and loss of firmness of the penis after ejaculation.

The psychological side for loss of a sexual appitite can also reek havoc on your sexlife. Fears of having a stroke or heart attack during sex, people on medication may use this as an excuse not the have a full sex life, tension about performance or lack of performance or just plain embarassment can create a full-stop sexually for many elderly people.

The physical side for the loff of a sexual appitite can be wide and varied. It may include pain from Arthritis, coronary disease, lung disease or even a colostomy bag which creates lack of condidence within a person. There are just so many ways in which we can "give up on sex" and yet it has been proven to prolong your life, is physically, mentally and spiritually a necessity for every human being. So? What can be done about improving your sex life when you begin to enter your twilight years?

For women a lubricant can ease any discomfort due to dryness of the vagina. A water-based lubricant is preferable as it does not cause any irritation. You could always ask your partner to apply the lubricant and treat this as part of your sexual experience. If this does not work for you then try a course of vaginal estrogens which you will have to discuss with your Doctor. If you are on any medication that you feel are intefering with your sexual drive then do something about it. Go to your Doctor and openly discuss it with them. So many elderly women today are taking back control of their bodies and seeking out information to ensure that their sex-life is not dead in the water.

Men must be aware that as their body begins to age that their penis may need more stimulation. If this problem is ongoing then go to your Doctor as you may have erectile disfunction. This is very treatable and nothing to be embarassed about. Like women, don't give into the theory that ageism plays a role in ruining your sex drive. You may need to see a Urologist but so what? Be patient, and actively seek out whether it is a physical or psychological problem that has stopped you enjoying sex. Take control and begin living again. Finally, one last word...VIAGRA!

If you have a physical disability or a colostomy bag then you just have to sit yourself down and ask what is stopping you having a fully active sex life. Are you ashamed? Are you shy? If the answers to either of these two questions is "yes" then you have to get a grip. Why are you allowing yourself to be this way. There is so much you are missing out on in your life. Simple necessary pleasure such as touch, visuals, emotions and sex are needed by every human being. Think! Take back control and give sex a try. You will really enjoy it and sex does wonders for aches, pains and confidence.

Ok, so you are not eighteen anymore but you can still have a highly active sex life. All you have to do is to think about what is holding you back. If you miss sex then do something about it. If you are happy with self-gratification then you don't need anything else, do you?. However, it would be nice to give it one last try even if you are the most hard-hearted pessimest.

Start to experiment with positions and see which one best suits your particular sexual or physical needs. One of the best positions for those with arthritis, a physical condition, a colostomy bag or any other condition is called "the spoon" position. This is where both partners lie on their sides, the woman with her back to the man. The reason that this is so popular with people is because of the intimacy. If this does not suit you due to a physical condition or any other reason, then try the "doggy position". This is when you both kneel down and the man enters the vagina from behind. This position is a particular favorite because it reduces stress on the back and penetration is deeper for the woman.

Now that you have started by reading this article there is nothing to stop you being sexually active. Break the stereotype in your head and forget about your age. It is now up to you to embark on a journey of sexual re-discovery and to be open about your sexual choices, communicate with your partner and enjoy sex. Sex is fun! Sex is completely natural! Sex is part of our make-up! So, go and enjoy your life.