Sex: Have it Your Way

Have you ever read the comments on a sex advice article? You should. It's a good laugh. People are very adamant about how we should feel about sex. When it comes to sex, I say have it your way, whatever that might be. Just don't expect everyone to do the same. News flash, there is no general rule about sex. Some like it hot while others like it comfortable. Yes, that includes men. So stop worrying about popular opinion. When it comes to sex, have it your way.

I'm fat, I feel inadequate in bed. Baloney! Your weight has nothing to do with your sexual performance. True, it might raise your self esteem to lose a few pounds, but only if that's what you want. Some men prefer more curvaceous women. Heck, some women prefer larger men. Your partner wouldn't be in bed with you if there was no attraction. A healthy self esteem is far more important than your size. Sex? Have it your way, whether you're a super model or a heavy weight champion.

Sexy clothes are vital in the bedroom. Really? Sure, sexy silky supermodel clothes are awesome. They make some women feel good and get their partners blood pumping. Still, they're not for everyone. In fact some men are more turned on by chicks who lounge in t-shirts, or even sweats. I've been with a few of them. Plus, if you're not comfortable in those thong thingies, why wear them? Your discomfort might shine through, making sex awkward. For more enjoyable sex, have it your way. If you love those sheer nothings, go for it. If your partner would rather see you in his dress shirt, try that too.

Porn can be hot. Or not. Here's a shocker. Not all men like porn. Not all women hate it, either. Some people like their sex down and dirty, while others prefer a loving touch. Some like a little of both. There's no right or wrong when it comes to consensual sex. Have it your way. With or without visual enhancement, toys, whips and chains. The important thing is that you and your partner are on the same page of the bed-time story. If not, neither of you will be happy in bed.

How to please your man or woman. Just ask them. You don't need to read advice on pleasing your man (or woman). The best source is laying right next to you. For the best sex, have it your way and his (or her) way. If you can't communicate with your partner about what they like in bed and give it to them, you need more than a sex advice article to fix your relationship. You certainly don't need advice from the comment section. If those people were so good at sex, they wouldn't have time to comment on articles. Talk to your partner about sex. Have it your way. It's the best way, no matter what the experts say.

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Source:

Personal experience