Sexual Submissives Learn to Enjoy Domination, Humiliation in Sub Space

For many people just entering this lifestyle, the idea of sub space is very elusive and unknown. Or if you have already experienced this, you don't know how to make it back there every time. Luckily, the sub space for true submissives is not as difficult to find as a G-Spot.

Sub space is a way of explaining the ability a submissive has to deal with the pain, humiliation and cruelty that their Dominants put out. This space is where submissives go in their own heads that allows them to enjoy or appreciate the experiences they are given by their Dominant. A high that is received after their cravings have been satisfied. If a submissive cannot find this ability in their won mind, eventually the play and rigorous lifestyle of a D/s relationship can break them down.

There are physiological reasons for subspace occurring. When a body can relate the pain to pleasure than their brains dump endorphins and the system is than flooded with epinephrine. These two things in the brain is what allows the pain to become more intense and the experience to become deeper and stronger. A lot of submissives describe it as a trance like state, they don't know where they are and they can't tell you specifics of what they are experiencing. To many submissives they feel like druggies that get their fix when this happens, and to their Dominant it allows them to push their submissives further than they would normally and everyone enjoys.

Some submissives cannot reach sub space. The reasoning can be anything from, the Master is afraid of pushing too far, the submissive has not been taught to correlate pain with pleasure, or the submissive or Dominant is new to the lifestyle and have yet to push their relationship this far.

Sub space can be very dangerous for new Dominants and submissives. If a submissive has no clear limits and they reach sub space the Dominant may push them so far that once the scene or play is over the submissive not only needs medical care for physical pain but also mental anguish. This falls under the decree of and D/s relationship, and that is that everything needs to be Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC). For subspace this means have a clear cut written limits list. Take scenes one level at a time don't start off with light spanking and jumps to whips and canes in the same scene of neither on of you have experienced them before. Try everything one big experience at a time, that the submissive and the Dominant know where the limits lie and don't press them even if the submissive during sub space wouldn't care.

Ultimately sub space is a wonderful experience and can lead to a lovely incoherent and blissful state after the scene. Some subs say they sleep better then after play than they ever do at any other time. Reaching this space however can take time so that everyone enjoys before, during, and after.