Sexually Active at 45+

To talk about India now, is something great to talk about. When I look back at my days during 70s and 80s, the Indian society especially in Tamil Nadu were still hesitant to give the freedom to their youngsters, both men and women to move forward and achieve their best in their life. There were lot of hurdles both at the family and the society. Apart from doing what they want, they had the responsibility to convince their parents or their society that they were going in the right way. The younger generation during 70s and 80s are probably now in the age range 45+ to 50+. Every day they meet bubbling youngsters who have lot of freedom to do their best and move in the direction of their choice. For example, the choice of subjects in the field of education and also vast job opportunities. Yet, there is a hitch. The society has given way for growth in all areas with innovation. But the society has not given approval for openness in discussing about healthy sex or the importance of sex in the married life.

An Indian man or a woman may be bold enough to talk about these things in a chat or in a mail. But, they hesitate to talk about this with their spouse or life partner. Counseling has been recognized in the society. The society does not sneer at the people who meet the counselors to get the guidance. Yet, people hesitate to go a counselor to set their sexual life in the right path.

I remember during the 40s and 50s, grand children and children were born in a family at the same period. The daughter would have come for delivery and at the same time, the mother would be also delivering. My father and his maternal uncle were of the same age. Most of the families were joint families, yet they found the time to get relief from stress through healthy sexual life.

Now a days, most families prefer to be nuclear families. They independently manage their lives. Yet, they cannot lead a healthy sexual life. The reason is, they believe, after they get their children, there is no personal life for them. Though they prefer active sexual life during the first few years of married life, they don't give much preference after they have started a family. To talk about sex is a taboo in the society. The society may doubly sneer at the woman who writes or talks about the sex. The female doctors are no exception.

I am 45+, yet my husband understands the importance of healthy sexual life at this age. Yet, I have the hesitation to accept immediately, as I have a notion behind my mind, what will society think about me. At this age, I have found out that healthy sexual life helps to maintain our body and mental health. Healthy sex can be stress buster and help us to feel relieved and happy. I must also accept the fact that Indian men and women still does not have a clear understanding of foreplay and the importance it plays in an individual's sexual life. Most of the men and women are satisfied with the few moments of sexual sharing. Indian men and women has to go a long way to understand these things. Is it not surprising to note that Kamasutra was written by an ancient Indian and still there is no healthy understanding about healthy sexual life?