Sexy Ways Teamwork Equals Greater Success

Sexy ways are attractive to both genders, and the opposite, which we might call, are not attractive. Let's go with an example of a gentleman who mentions to a lady that she is presenting a perfect image of color and taste. That's relatively tasteful, not too terribly bland, and it is, compared to "cat-calls" from construction workers, polite, wouldn't you ladies agree? A man who is told by a lady at work that his choice of tweed matched with cotton has worked well in his suit, can smile, she hasn't come on to him, has she? That's a tasteful compliment, compared to being accosted by some semi-drunk party ladies, which, while it is construed as "fun" and is dancing in a professional "Chippendale's" way, is not as tasteful as the light compliment about his suit.

Sexy ways are subtle is the point here, versus those ways which are openly and ardently not sexy but sexual - the difference is important when trying to understand the power of attraction over the obvious, sexy isn't obvious it is subtle. This article discusses a fairly tough means of broaching the gender bias to form a winning combination of power, without passing beyond that which is attractive. In the culture of the next decade this will be very important to both genders, and will become a part of the culture to such an extent that those who remain ignorant of it do so at their own peril.

Peril is a strong term to use, but it is true, a person ignorant of cultures for the next decade of business, will leave themselves in a lurch of ignorance that may cost them a career, yet the point of this article is what if it cost you more than a career? What if the cost of being ignorant about sexy ways were something far more valuable? "What is more valuable than a career?" You'd like to know, and almost as quickly it occurs to you, the lifelong love you might sacrifice on the altar of indiscretion, without cause.

Attractive, it brings up options, it opens doors, it brings with it promise, but it leaves on the doorstep the final completion; which is why, attractive is different. Think of it this way, imagine a chocolate bar you like, or, your favorite pastry- do you have that image in your mind? Great, now, imagine that you can't get it- does it still taste the same? Do you still want it? Did you want it more before you knew you couldn't get it? In modern words we call this denial, yet the truth is that this has been studied by one of the giants in psychology, Freud, who discovered the strange nature of attraction that did not take place, versus, that which did.

If you believe that you are better off by yourself, then the attractiveness which you give off to the opposite sex, or, significant others, won't mean that much to you, for you set your goals and objectives in life, based solely upon yourself. This is good to an extent, but when pressed beyond measurable means, it can become detrimental, bad for you, and bad for others, who need you, but you aren't aware of it. This was first brought home to me when someone suggested that my viewpoint about action and reaction was too singular to be honest. That really set me off, what were they saying, that I was lying? Of course not, they went on to explain, it wasn't that at all, it was my viewpoint, and then they began to explain to me about activity and importance, how, when you are in a group of people who are doing something, there is an energy among the group, this is called synergy, and that the leader of that group feels connected into that power, the center of the synergy, and that the center point of the synergy comes from and is caused by excitement- being excited. Excitement is a natural state caused by, and which results in, heat - is this starting to take hold in your mind a bit? Heat brings about excitement at a higher level and the agitation causes a reaction, that reaction generates action, that action becomes heat. Being the focal point of a situation brings about excitement. It is flowers of appreciation, it is a sweet chocolate gift selection, it is a surprise- they are all generators of excitement, which emotion generates heat, which in turn...well, we get it, don't we?

Now we come to the crux of the event, the joining for forces to multiply energy, to bring about a synthesis of your energy plus the excitement of the energy generated by the actions and reactions which occur between you and some others. This is the exciting element of what attraction can accomplish, as we begin to dig deeper and deeper into sexy ways, it may be dawning on us that there is more to this than meets the eye. It isn't obvious, it is subtle, and in that, we conclude this section with your usual invitation to write the author at his email, or, contact him at his blog, or simply stay tuned as more articles are promised in this realm.

References:

1. Chippendales homepage: http://www.chippendales.com/ (Not an endorsement of any kind nor to be construed as any sort of support of this organization or members by the author in any way directly stated or implied - they are used as examples only).

2. Freud's translated notes: http://www.ionopsis.com/medical/HTML_Phychology/Psychopathology_Of_Everyday_Life.htm

3. Genders view some things the same: http://www.psy.fsu.edu/undergrad.prog/kistner/Maner_et_al_JPSP.pdf

4. Tasteless and tactless behavior: http://www.jossip.com/gossip/rosie-odonnell/rosie-odonnell-vs-kelly-ripa-when-it-comes-to-clay-aiken-the-gloves-come-off-20061121.php

5. Ladies agree: http://www.sciam.com/article.cfm?id=00018E9D-879D-1D06-8E49809EC588EEDF

6. She hasn't come on to him, has she? http://men.style.com/news/blog

7. Subtle sexy ways: http://silverreflection.tripod.com/id36.html

8. Sexual not subtle: http://sensualromance.writerspace.com/HarlequinBlazes.html

9. Attractive: http://www.livescience.com/strangenews/060907_women_mags.html

10. Gender Importance in future: http://www.un.org/events/women/iwd/2005/feb%20womens.pdf

11. Loners: http://www.psychologytoday.com/ctr/personality2.html

12. Loner not aware of being lonely: http://www.ptypes.com/idealist.html

13. Synergy: http://encyclopedia2.thefreedictionary.com/synergism

14. Synergy and Excitement: http://www.pubmedcentral.nih.gov/articlerender.fcgi?artid=1193761

15. Heat and excitement: http://www.clavius.org/heatxfer.html