Sharing Spaces: Moving the Baby in with an Older Sibling

Introducing a baby into a family that already has children can be a delicate procedure. Particularly if that baby is going to have to share a room with an older sibling (even harder if that sibling is an only child). Try to keep your child involved in as much as the pregnancy as you can. Let them hear heartbeats, see sonograms and feel kicks. Also try to encourage them by telling them all the cool new stuff they will get to do as a big brother/sister. Be prepared for acting out. Be prepared for jealousy.

An important thing to remember is that during the entire process you need to make sure that your child feels included in the process and not like s/he is being replaced. You may have to opt out of nursery decorating and instead go for an overall room theme or color scheme that your child can help pick out.

You may find that it is easier to go with a color scheme in the room then to try to theme it. It will also be less expensive. It is important to organize the room as much as possible and to make sure the older child's toys aren't being moved out of sight or make him feel like they are being taken away. You can get good closet organizers at any local home improvement store.

Because of the space crunch, opt to use items for more than they are intended. Use a low sitting dresser as a changing table. Never leave a baby unattended on a changing table. Make use of laminate shelving to keep items organized and off the floor. You might also consider giving your child a cool new gift (such as a bunk bed or low loft bed) that is specifically from the baby. This will free up some space and give a positive association to the baby.

Regardless of how much you prepare though, there are bumpy times in the road ahead. New babies require a large amount of attention that your child may not be ready to give up. Make sure to include your child in taking care of the baby either by feeding or helping to bathe the baby. If you have a spouse or significant other, trade off children so each is paid equal amount of attention. If you are having an especially difficult time, just remember that children are flexible and will grow into the situation given enough time.