She's Just Not Interested

People date for different reasons. Some women marry for stability. Some for status, some for love. But lets face it, most men want more sex than their spouse is willing or able to provide. My pastor talked about this in the latest Valentines day sermon.

First of all lets take a look at the way men take women for granted. There's the expecting sex before marriage, humiliation of having to do "anything" to get married. And then the whole coldness in the marriage itself. Men play with women's hearts the way Michael Jordan played basket ball. And then you wonder why there's no interest in making love once you get married.

Now I always thought of a relationship as being a partnership. And while I have had guys say they want me. I don't get the impression that they want a partnership. There's the "I love you. Now sleep with me." There's the "let's just be friends until you lose weight." There's the "Marry me and provide for me" men too.

So what do I think of all this terrible sin against women? It stinks. I made a vow to wait till marriage, but I'd rather die a virgin than to put up with this "Un-love" behavior. If I hadn't met so many men who would rather do drugs than marry someone in High School, I wouldn't be so quick to speak up.

Those famous doctors say a loving monogamous relationship is healthy. But how many of those do you find? There's the impossible expectations, the drinking, promiscuity, and cheating. I'd say we need more healthy attitudes about sex and relationships.

Someone once said that 90% of our needs would go unmet. I know that not finding a healthy relationship has been hard on me. Much of my anxiety revolves around strange men being ungentlemanly. But I also know that celibacy is safer than being in a unloving relationship.

And the most important relationship you have is with yourself and Jesus. He wants you to love him. Even if you're single. And although I have had plenty of heart ache, I must say that I've had some pretty neat boyfriends despite the fact that I didn't love them. And now that I'm older and wiser, I know that even when you think others just don't get you. Jesus is the lover of your soul.

I may be smart and beautiful. But men have been pretty hard on me. So I never wanted to go further. I'd rather be alone than taken for granted. And I think I've proven that.