Should Divorce Be Made Illegal, Except for Unfaithfulness?
People will experience one of two feelings when hearing this question. One reaction would be that of agreement, with the assumption the person would never want to split up with his or her partner. The second feeling would be one of danger or entrapment - a belief that a person could not get out of a terrible situation.
In my article, "5 Secret Reasons Why Marriages Fail," I related that many people have disregard for the wedding vows they recited and they often choose drive-through divorce as an easy way out. I also noted that people tend to be unaware of what the scriptures convey about divorce, which is as follows:
"But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery." Matthew 5:32
When I bring all of this up, people sometimes become rather alarmed. One lady said:
"Divorce - only in the case of adultery?? What about husbands who beat their wives, alcoholics, drug addicts, abusers, ect? Women should have the right to divorce the a_______ if they feel he is threatening their safety or happiness."
Unfortunately, because of the rudeness, disrespect and the personal attack in addition to what appears here, I had to remove the post according to my policy. However, this is still a great stand-alone question which I will answer as follows:
1. The lady said, "Women should have the right...," but I was not speaking of only women, but rather both sexes. Any strict divorce laws would also (and especially) apply to men, and this would help to insure that men don't cop out and are held responsible if they don't live up to their vows.
2. My advice to women would be to be much more careful and selective to not marry a man who is apt to be a wife-beater, an alcoholic, a drug addict or abuser in the first place. I assure everyone that this can be accomplished, by engaging in sensible behavior prior to marriage, such as not having sex. I went over this in "5 Secret Reasons Why Marriages Fail." I assure everyone that this would take care of the concern expressed by the lady about 99 per cent of the time. However, for the remaining one per cent, let's look at point number 3:
3. If a woman practices sensible behavior before marriage, and such an abusive individual still falls through the cracks, consider this: such a swine is going to be unfaithful, anyway, about 99 per cent of the time. Therefore, the woman would certainly have legal and moral grounds for divorce in that event. For the one per cent who is abusive but remains faithful by some miracle, a separation would be in order, and then he'd probably become unfaithful within a very short while, anyway, and divorce proceedings could begin. After such an occurrence of infidelity, a woman would, of course, even have a stronger case.
Is the outlawing of a lot of divorce really a viable solution? Perhaps it's a bit too drastic, but then again, maybe it's not too farfetched. I'm really saddened by what divorce does to people and to our country. The breakdown of families causes a lot of heartbreak, destroyed lives and damage to children in many cases. I hope that my points will at least have an awakening effect.
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16 Comments
Post a CommentI wouldn't walk away from them if they were in a burning building, but I would consider charging them for the fire department bill depending on the circumstances. Because divorce is not a life or death issue, it may be possible to do as I've described.
Marty,
You seem to have very set opinions about the types of people in this world. Do you really think it's honestly that easy to look at one detail of someone's life and then automatically brand them an ingrate or a criminal? You also have to keep in mind that people are neither master mind-readers or fortune-tellers, and may not always pick a partner that won't ever become abusive. Again, not that simple. For those who are in abusive relationships right now, man or woman, would your advice to them be "Ooh that's too bad you should have chosen better" or would you help them? If a family was trapped in a burning building, would you tell them it's probably their fault it started and then walk away?
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Marriages don't work out because we fall short on understanding what loving someone means. Love is a choice. You make a choice to love them or to not love them. And everyone's definition of how to be loved differs. It is letting go of anger so you can see clearer as how to truly love someone. Let me tell you to choose to love someone is hard. We are built to fight and argue and get the upper hand. As a woman who has been with the same man for 11 years and we are finally getting married this year, is a testament to how we have change our thinking on how to really love one another. Not for personal gain but to show the kind of love to one another that means something to that person. For example i may have to endure quadding with my honey in exchange for him to come shopping with me, both of us are not thrilled to do what the other likes but choose to do it because i means a great deal to the other and in return the other appreciates the effort to spend time with them. I have found for us
Exactly. This guy is right on. I for one don't and never have abused, my wife, or cheated on her in any way ever. Period! But yet in barely over a year of marriage she is still divorcing me. I see this happen all the time. My brother in law never abused his wife in anyway and never cheated on any of them. But 2 women divorced him anyways! I had 2 Fiances who did the same thing to me. This has to STOP! People have got to take their vows seriously, because the people who you are marrying, think that you are since they are!
Also, I submit that living together is largely what contributes to divorce and doesn't prevent it. It is mainly for foolish, unprincipled people, and those infected with the modern era plague of liberalism. What we need is a reversion to traditional values, not a further escape from them.
My suggestion may be exaggerated, but I'm mainly trying to point out that divorce has reached epidemic proportions and people have contempt and disregard for the vows they take. So in a sense, I wish that divorce would be made illegal for them, as a way to get them to take things seriously.
Ha Ha Ha ! Divorce illegal? Sure, what else? I've been working at my marriage for 9 years and spent my youth on that to finally wise up and realise that my life is passing by me and certain things just cannot be fixed. How is your marriage Mr? good? lucky you!You should learn compassion and understand that we are not all as lucky as you are, if you are even married. For my part I hope that marriage will be abolished all together because it makes absolutely no sense, just like religion. We have been fed this crap since who knows when and now it is time to wake up! We do not need laws and papers to tell us when to love and when to not. I do not know about you, but I do not love on command and honestly do not know how long my love will last so promissing to love someone for ever is starting with a lie! This is a matter of feelings, of love and passion and should not be dictated by laws. Life is short and should be enjoyed to it's full extent. We should live together if we want, or not if
It's foolish to stay and take a beating from any one. I will defend my self and my babies to the end. First of all a man would have to be utterly stupid to beat me and think he can get away with such crime. He would live to regret his foolishness.
such advises or things on divorce should not be placed here because this mat lead to separation of families at a higher rate.