Should You and Your Love One Get Married?

How many times have you heard from your relatives, "When are you going to get married, settle down and have kids?" It was really amazing to me when I was younger the amount of people that were married and miserable, but they still had time to promote their marriage campaign. Many of us now know from experience that if you are not happy with your self and your present life, getting married will not make you any happier.

Plenty of women I have met still think that if they find the right man and get him to walk down the aisle that their life will be fulfilled. I have often asked these type of people to look around at their friends and family and ask them if they see any of them that have been happy with the decisions that they made in their lives. You will find very few people that will tell you that they are happy with their spouse. I have spent hundreds of hours observing and listening to people on the beach, they are generally relaxed and have a tendency to spill the beans, so to speak. I was sitting on the beach one day trying not to listen to two seniors talk about their deceased husbands. One of the ladies stated that she didn't really miss her dead husband, which kind of surprised me. She stated that all he had been good for was the condo that he paid for in West Palm Beach, otherwise she had an unhappy life with him. Even being a mother to their children had not satisfied her. This was not the only lady that I have heard express herself about her deceased spouse. Sure, I have talked to many that are devastated and seemed to really love their husbands or wives too.

If you are happy with your life and your partner complements you and is supportive of you, then I would consider getting married to that person. But in my experience you do not have to marry a person to be dedicated to them. You do not have to be married to share your life with someone. For some of us, we know that a piece of paper and vows do not make the marriage. What makes a relationship last is if you grow with the person that are with and accept the person the way they are. No piece of paper can make you do this. If you have to coax, convince or force someone to walk down the aisle with you, you may want to rethink your motivation for getting married.

There are very few fairy tale relationships. I guess they left out the diaper changing parts of Cinderella and the getting up in the middle of the night to feed the baby part. If you are getting married because you love the person and enjoy being with them, I believe that if you are mature and willing to grow yourself, that you have a chance. You need to remember happiness comes from within, you can't get married and think that you are finally going to be happy just because your outside circumstances have changed.