Should You Stop Having Sex Before Your Wedding?

Jody Morse
While there are some couples who choose to remain abstinent until marriage, many couples now live together or have sex before the wedding night. As the wedding approaches, a lot of engaged couples will be faced with an important question. Should you stop having sex before your wedding? This article examines the advantages and disadvantages of waiting until the wedding night for couples who are already sexually active.

Taking a Break From Sex Builds up Anticipation

Many couples worry that their wedding night will be no more special than sex any other night. By waiting until the wedding, you will be building up anticipation. Anticipation leads to excitement, tension, and desire - all of which can lead to better sex. For some couples, taking a break from sex can be worthwhile for this reason alone.

Sex Provides Relief During Stressful Times

Researchers have found a positive link between sexual intercourse and stress reduction, according to WebMD. For most couples, planning a wedding is a very stressful time. By choosing to not give up sex while you are preparing to get married, you will likely feel less stressed than if you choose to take a break from it. On the other hand, some couples may feel so stressed out with all of the preparations that are being made that they may actually have a hard time finding time for one another.

Some People May Feel Neglected and Insecure

If sex plays a regular role in your relationship, there is a chance that you or your fianc© may begin to feel negative if you stop having sex before the wedding. In some ways, you may feel neglected. If you are a jealous person, you may even begin to wonder what is going on at your significant other's bachelor or bachelorette party. Despite how important trust is in a relationship, giving sex up cold turkey for a long period of time can undoubtedly cause hurt feelings.

If you make the decision to take a break from sex before marriage, the best thing that you can do is choose a realistic time frame, such as a few week at the max. Many couples will have a difficult time going for many months without having sex, especially if they live together. Waiting too long to have sex, when you are used to doing it regularly, can cause negative feelings. That said, waiting until the night of your wedding can also provide an enjoyable experience for some.

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WebMD

Published by Jody Morse - Featured Contributor in Health & Wellness

Jody Morse has a B.A. in English from East Stroudsburg University. As a sufferer of endometriosis, she enjoys writing about women's health issues. She has worked as an assistant wedding DJ, and is dabbling i...  View profile

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  • Bill Hanks5/4/2011

    interesting subject

  • Charlotte Kuchinsky5/4/2011

    I didn't have to stop because I didn't have any at all before I got married. It was a different time, though.

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