Should You Have Two Bridal Showers?

Jody Morse
Bridal showers allow you to spend time with friends and family before your wedding day. Of course, your friends and family members will shower you with gifts, which is why things can get a little tricky if you're thinking about having more than one shower. Unfortunately, not everyone agrees that this is the best etiquette. Some even feel that it's selfish and greedy to have a second shower. Is it ever okay for a bride to have two bridal showers? Here are some things to take into consideration.

Long-Distance Bridal Showers

If your family or friends don't live nearby, they may want to throw you another bridal shower. In some cases, it may be that your fiance's family who doesn't live nearby and wants to throw you another shower. In either of these cases, a second bridal shower is perfectly acceptable and understandable. Having a second shower for family and friends who are unable to attend the first time around, but still want to spend the day with you, is not greedy or selfish. It's about more than just presents because those people could mail your presents to you if they really wanted.

Office Bridal Showers


If you work with a group of people who you are close to, there's a chance that they may throw you a bridal shower in the office or, in some cases, at someone's home. Whether or not your co-workers are invited to the wedding, they may want to shower you with gifts and well wishes before your special day. There is absolutely nothing greedy or selfish about having a second bridal shower when it is thrown by your co-workers. These showers are generally thrown as surprises, anyway!

Bride-to-be and Groom-to-be Bridal Showers


A new trend is for the bride-to-be to have her bridal shower with a group of female family and friends. Later on, someone from the groom's side will throw a second shower, which will include the bride-to-be, the groom-to-be, and both male and female guests. To avoid your friends and family from frowning upon this type of second bridal shower, why not opt for a co-gender shower the first time around? This will help ensure that the groom, as well as his friends and male family members, can also feel included.

If you do make the decision to have a second bridal shower or believe that a second surprise shower is going to be thrown for you, it's important to make sure that any guests who are invited both times are notified that they are not expected to bring a second gift. Have someone let them know that you just want them to spend your special days with you. This should help to prevent anyone from thinking that you are greedy or selfish for having a second bridal shower.

Published by Jody Morse - Featured Contributor in Health & Wellness

Jody Morse has a B.A. in English from East Stroudsburg University. As a sufferer of endometriosis, she enjoys writing about women's health issues. She has worked as an assistant wedding DJ, and is dabbling i...  View profile

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  • Jennie Lee Williams8/27/2011

    I had two bridal showers since my family is in NY and my husband's family is here in Ohio. It was such a blessing - I felt very honored that two people were willing to throw me showers. It's tough not to feel selfish at a shower in the first place, but people wouldn't come if they didn't want to help you get off to a good start :)

  • Charlotte Kuchinsky6/21/2011

    I had three. My family threw one. My best friends threw one. My teacher threw one. It was great!

  • CarolinaD6/13/2011

    Interesting info; thank you!

  • Sophie S6/11/2011

    I didn't have a bridal shower. I like the idea of having two though!
    Sophie

  • Bill Hanks6/10/2011

    Very valid points Jody

  • Tiffany Booth6/10/2011

    Great article! Thanks for sharing =0)

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