Should Wives Really Submit to Their Husbands?

Should wives submit to their husbands? This is a loaded question, for the industrial revolution and the continued feminist movement have both brought a strong feeling of superiority toward husbands and contempt for submission. Let's explore this further.

Prior to the industrial revolution, a traditional family was the norm, where the husband worked and brought home the income, the wife kept the home and raised the children and the children were taught traditional family values. During the industrial revolution when women entered the working world, day care and after school programs had not yet been set up. It became impossible for the working woman to care for children and the size of the average family subsequently diminished.

Since then, women have felt themselves undermined and disrespected, and to a certain extent they were. I think that day has passed and that we women have come into our own. I feel that it is no longer necessary to stand up for ourselves on a proactive basis and say, "We are being squashed! Give us freedom!" I acknowledge that there was a time when such a statement would have been necessary. However, we have evolved and I do not believe that society is oppressing us any longer, even though many of us still believe this to be the case.

The current roles of men and women have taken a decided masculine turn. In order to uplift ourselves as female, the modern woman has made herself more masculine, more stubborn and a tough fighter in the workplace. The goal seems to be to "beat the men at their own game." This role is to be compared with women in the past who kept themselves feminine and discreet, while turning a hard case in the business world at the same time. I postulate that the roles of women in the past were, indeed, more powerful roles.

Let's face it, girls. We are NOT men. We have different bodies and different temperaments. To beat the men at their own game is impossible, simply because they are better at being "men" than we are. Our goal should be to beat ourselves at our past game. Men will never be able to fulfill the proper role as women, and vice versa. None of us were built for that.

Now let's continue the subject of submission. The modern-day definition of "sexism" is that of a man lording it over his wife, the sniveling obedience of the wife, and the disrespect on both ends of the spectrum. This, however, is not true sexism. Sexism is simply a recognition that men and women were built differently and that we have different societal roles to occupy. We are not less than the men. We are merely different. I challenge you to find for me a man who can tolerate the excruciating pain and long-suffering of pregnancy and childbirth. Our role is not weaker than a man's role. Our role is a different kind of strength.

Submission, by definition, means to place yourself under the authority or leadership of another. Men cannot force you to submit, simply because that is not true submission. That is forcing. A couple of generations have passed since the subject of submission has been taught in the home. The man is the head of the home and the family, a dominant figure if a compromise cannot be had between the man and woman. However, only you can submit to your man. He cannot do anything to make you submit.

Men, by nature, need to be trusted. They need to be treated, and thought of, as heads of the household, as guardians, protectors and the main force of the family. Your job is to recognize this role and to acknowledge this role openly to your man and the general public. Men need your support. You are not worth less than they are. In a marriage, you are needed by them to support them and uplift them and show them proper respect and gratitude. This, above anything else, is what will help your man to become more dominant, more protective and more gentlemanly. I have never met a man who did not respond to submission from his wife with courtesy, love, open public affection and thoughtfulness.