Shy Guys/Gals Guide to Dating

Even if you have an outgoing, bubbly personality, going on a first date can be nerve-racking. If you are shy, going on a first date might be downright grueling. Shy people are usually quiet and uneasy around others - especially strangers. However, once the shy person gets to know someone, they tend to loosen up little and chatter uncontrollably.

There are different levels of shyness. Some persons discover ways to control their coyness and enjoy the company of others. On the other hand, some shy persons dodge all social interactions. They may be seen as a loner or stuck-up. Quite the contrary, the average shy person wants to develop close friendships, and would appreciate an outgoing personality.

Whether you are a little shy or extremely shy, there are techniques to help you cope with the anxiety of a first date.

1. Pre-Think Conversation Starters

Some people have the "gift of gab." They can enter a room full of strangers and strike up a conversation with anyone present. If you don't possess this talent, try a different approach. Before going on a date, think of possible conversation starters. Choose questions that are likely to spark an open discussion. For example, "what do you do for a living," "seen any good movies lately," or "what do you like to do on the weekends." Follow up each answer with an additional question or a statement. Don't get too personal. Have fun and don't over-think.

2. Look Good

It's a fact, when people look good - they also feel good. Before the date, make a hair appointment, nail appointment, and select you most flattering outfit. If you don't feel 100% confident in an outfit - change your clothing.

3. Develop an Alter-Ego

I'm not suggesting phoniness or putting up a façade. Be yourself, but don't let nerves ruin your evening. Many shy people have learned how to fake self-confidence. It's like having a dual-personality or alter-ego. While your everyday self is timid and apprehensive, your other self is fearless and confidence.

4. Talk about the Weather, Sports, or Current Events

There is nothing worse than an awkward silence. Shy people tend to remain quiet because they don't know what to say. However, if you were to observe an outgoing person in action, you'll note that they talk about every imaginable subject. Has the weather been unusually warm or cold? Was there a recent shocking news report? These are excellent topics for good conversation.