Shy No More: How to Break the Spell

Being shy is something that many of us go through. It is not uncommon to feel nervous around others and maybe even intimidated by them. But as we grow older, we must learn how to break this habit before it becomes an issue. I have struggled with shyness throughout my life and I can say that it is not a pleasant thing. It cost me many opportunities that I should have taken and many friendships that I could have had. I eventually began to come out of my shell when I reached high school. Now that I am in college, I am much more outspoken and able to voice my thoughts without being shy and timid. Want to know my secrets behind the success? Then read the following tips on how to break the spell of being shy.

Tip #1: Be comfortable in your own skin!

I found that one of the main reasons behind my shyness was the fact that I did not have the self confidence in myself that I should have had. You must learn how to love yourself and be confident in your own skin. Having a lack of self confidence definitely pushed me into my "shy mode" because I did not want people to see my imperfections. As I grew older, I slowly began to realize that everyone is not perfect. There are so many flaws that we all have. We just have to learn how to accept them and move on.

Tip #2: Try making a new friend each week.

This may sound like a challenge but if you are on a college campus or still in high school, try to make a friend every week. You will be surprised how much someone else can open you up and help you experience new things. If you are not near many people every day, try to go out on the weekends and meet others. If you are very shy, you may have to do this in a group setting with a few friends that you already have.

Tip #3: Take a Public Speaking class.

When I took Public Speaking in my first semester of college, I began to get comfortable with talking to big groups of people. Taking a class or learning about public speaking will break you out of that shy shell. You will begin to see how easy it is to be able to talk in front of people, whether it be a group setting or with you being all alone. Learn the importance of speaking publically, and your personal interactions will become amazingly improved.

Tip #4: Tell yourself good things!

The mind is very powerful. Telling yourself mentally that you are incapable, extremely shy, or a nervous wreck will ruin your confidence. Your subconscious will remember these things and will force you to act accordingly. Therefore, wake up every morning and say something positive about yourself. I know that this may seem silly at first but as time goes on, you will see the benefit from it and will become a better person.

These four simple tips will help you change for the better and become the outgoing, fun, and confident person that you have always wanted to be. Break out of your shell TODAY!