Siblings, Another Chance

Previously I have stated that in 1971 my father was electrocuted suddenly leaving behind 6 children ranging from 2-17. My mother was a stay at home mom. She was the greatest ,so now she has to go into the father mode also. We of course had the help of extended family. My mom was the greatest she did everything.

We had this huge garden of vegetables , strawberries, blueberries, and we also raised chickens. She did alot of canning , freezing and everything in between. She never told us no for anything. If we did our chores we could go to any activity we wanted . She would drive us and I may add he neighbor kids also, to school activities no matter what. We were involved in sports, band ,plays etc.

We had our differences but seemed to get along and played together, got in trouble together and helped our mother together. As we got older and we got married we still came home for pizza on Sunday nights. Always together for holidays. Mom looked to cook and bake.

Now my mother is 80 and has dementia with 6 children it seems we are divided. My oldest sister is POA and my mothers house was placed in my brothers name years ago so that he could start a business. Everything went fine until now. So our first meeting was a disaster after mom went to the nursing home . I know what you are thinking why are we not taking care of her she has 6 kids. My mother would not live with any of us. She said that she would not ruin out lives or marriages. So this was her choice while she was still able.

My youngest brother was very mean at our first meeting and we were all in tears. He threw nasty words around said very mean things to my sister. I was very disappointed in him. He cannot go in to see mom for more then 15 min at a time , He is not handling this situation very well. He is drinking every night.

So my oldest brother asked me to call my sister to set up another meeting it has been 5 Months. I told him that he would need to do this himself. Was I wrong? He did make that call and we are getting together very soon, this time in a public place and then when we are done we are going to lunch all together with my mom . The scariest thing is that if the next time we all would be together was at her funeral. We need to get this settled now. I know that not everything can be right my family calls me the nice one and I always try to see the good in every thing.

I know that we are far from laying in the backyard looking up at the clouds and finding objects or looking for 4 leaf clovers but It may be a step closer. The next step will be to clean out her house without fighting.

Wish me luck!