Signs Your Boyfriend Has Commitment Phobia

Commitment phobia, as you can probably guess, is the fear of commitment. Most women will get into a relationship with a commitment phobic man at some point, but it is important to note that women can also fear committing. Here are some of the signs which may indicate that your boyfriend has commitment phobia.

1. He didn't want to commit to an exclusive relationship right away. If your boyfriend didn't want to commit to being in an exclusive relationship with you for a long time and there wasn't a legitimate reason for it, chances are that he may simply have been too afraid to put a title on your relationship.

2. It took a long time before he was willing to introduce you to his friends or family. Commitment phobes generally prolong introducing a new girlfriend to their parents, as well as their best friends. The reason is because once you meet their friends and family, your relationship and his commitment becomes "real." You might find out that you're also the only girlfriend his family has ever met. Similarly, your boyfriend may try to put off meeting your family as well.

3. He has had many short relationships or several long, unsatisfying relationships. Some commitment phobes do not allow relationships to progress to the next level, so they give up on them right away. Other commitment phobes intentionally stay in relationships that they know have no future. If your boyfriend tells you that he stayed in a relationship and knew things would never work out, chances are that he could have a fear of commitment.

4. Your boyfriend seems emotionally detached. Commitment phobes generally try not to get too close, even when they are exclusively dating someone. You might find that your boyfriend doesn't want to see you too often and when he does, he might spend little time paying attention to you. He also may go for days at a time without having any contact with you and may cancel plans often.

5. It took your boyfriend a long time to say he loves you. Or perhaps he hasn't said it yet at all. Saying "I love you" is a deeper sign of commitment than just agreeing to see someone exclusively. Commitment phobes often try to postpone it as long as possible and often give in when their girlfriends start questioning it.

6. You often feel like you are put on the back-burner. Commitment phobes tend to put work, family, friends, and every other aspect of their lives before their relationship.

7. He tends to start a lot of pointless arguments. It may have lead to one or more breakups or "breaks" during the course of your relationship. The arguments may also have been over the most ridiculous issues. Some commitment phobes use starting arguments as a way to protect themselves from getting too close to you.

A relationship with a commitment phobic man can be a challenge. Although there are some men who will eventually make a long-term commitment once they meet the right woman, others may not. Trying to figure out whether or not you are the one who your commitment phobic boyfriend will commit to can be stressful, heartbreaking, and time-consuming. It is often best to evaluate whether or not the relationship is worth it.

Source:

Msnbc.com, "10 signs you're afraid of commitment."