Signs of Emotional Abuse

Do you often find yourself feeling like you're worthless and crying all the time? Do you feel like your life is a living hell? You may be emotionally abused. While emotional abuse isn't as obvious as physical abuse, it's scars cannot be seen, but they are felt just as deeply! It is not always a partner that is doing the abusing, it can be a parent, sibling, co-worker, or friend. Here are some signs that will help you understand better if you or someone you love might be emotionally abused by someone.

-They make you feel like they are sick of you, make you feel worthless, and don't like you, but they get very upset and/or angry if they find out you are trying to leave.

-You're worthless! They tell you that you're incapable of doing anything right. When you go and do something, you do it all wrong all the time. You cannot seem to make them happy, and they let you know it.

-Their hurt feelings are all your fault. They never place blame on themselves. They point their finger at you for their problems and never place blame on their own actions.

-They expect perfection from you. They are dependent on you for everything that they need, and are expected to meet their needs perfectly.

-About face! The abuser is nice for awhile, but then they do an about face and become angry about things that were fine earlier. Their behavior changes for no obvious reason.

-You feel like your life would be great if they weren't so hot and cold with their emotions.

-Walking on eggs? You feel like you have to be very careful with everything that you say and do when it comes to the abuser. One wrong action could lead you into a time of rage that you dread.

-Commit now! If you're in a relationship that has just started, the partner tends to try and get you to commit quickly and things move extremely fast.

-You are blamed for every problem that happens in the relationship. They are never to blame for their part in any argument or hurt feeling. You put this all upon yourself.

-When something happens to them that is negative, somehow it ends up being your fault. Maybe they were late to school, work, or an appointment. Maybe a bill was paid late. Somehow, it's all your fault.

-Your partner overreacts over the tiniest things. Maybe you didn't fold the towels right, or you left your shoes out when you should've put them away. The slightest problem brings unexplainable anger.

-You can never tell them what they do wrong. You feel afraid to go to them about things that bother you in the relationship. If you do, then everything gets turned back on you and how it is all your fault.

-JEALOUS! They do not like when you spend time with anyone else! They make you feel guilty about being with friends, or working a little over, even being a few minutes late. It's lost time with them! They often suspect you are plotting against them or even having an affair. They want to make sure that they have all the control over you.

-Isolation equals control. They don't let you go out with friends or even see family. They want you home for them so you are at their beck and call at all times. They even take control of finances and giving you only small allowances, if any.

-You have no self respect. You may not like the person you are anymore. You feel like you aren't worthy of love and respect. You feel like you don't deserve any better than the present situation and it's just the card you're dealt in life....you feel like you can't leave.

If you are experiencing any or most of these signs, please seek out help from someone you love and trust. Seek out the help of a professional. Even though it may seem scary, you can stop the cycle of abuse and overcome all the hurt and pain. You are stronger than the abuser! They only make you feel small to make them self feel bigger. You are an amazing individual who i an important part of the world! You CAN save yourself! Contact local authorities and ask where you can get help!