Signs Your Spouse is Cheating

When you are committed in a serious relationship there is always the chance of one person not being completely honest with the other about their feelings, needs or happiness. This can lead to serious unhappiness in the relationship or even into resenting the other person for holding them back from being able to fulfill their own needs and desires. Signs of unfaithfulness and deceit are often showcased, but most of the times these signs are overlooked because no one suspects anything. Not only can it be hard to read the signs, but some signs can be mistakenly labeled as "conspicuous" activities.

Staying at work late should be expected every now and again depending upon your partner's type of job, but it should not become an every night event. If you notice that your partner begins coming home from work late, you may want to keep track of the occurrences to find out if there is a pattern. It might start out as a gradual occurrence and then it turns into an every night event where you find them returning home increasingly later and later.

If you find that your mate is showering as soon as they get home then there is sure to be a reason. Showering and even using cologne or after shave before they are going "out" to somewhere like the hardware store, the bank or somewhere like that. Why do they need to be so freshened up when normally they don't care this much about their appearance? Does he or she put on that shirt you know is only worn for special occasions and go out without you? Do they give you vague answers when asked where they are going or will be?

Making excuses when they are asked where they have been. You know your mate and you should be able to tell if they are not telling you the truth. Stuttering or repeating the question that you just asked are common stalling tactics so that they may buy time to come up with something believable. Another red flag is if your loved one gets angered by your questioning them; they should be grateful that you care enough to be worried and find out why they were late.

Cell phones are not the most reliable of devices, but it should not act up every time your mate goes out. Another red flag is if you try to call your partner when they are out and always get no answer but you remember hearing them using their phone earlier in the day - they may be screening their calls for some reason. Also if you notice that they walk out of the room every time they get on the phone or receive a phone call you may want to investigate to find out why - unless it's close to your birthday or anniversary then you might want to give it a few days.

You notice that your partner has become less interested in you as a person and even sexually. This can go so far as to them becoming angry at you for what seems like no reason, but deep down inside they resent you for being around so they have to keep certain "friendships" a secret. Their tolerance for you may be inexistent and they may snap at you for almost everything, even trying to find reasons to point the blame.

Do you notice that your mate only gets on the computer when you are out of the room, or when they know you are leaving? Try checking the "Internet History" on your computer - this can be done by going to the top of your browser page and clicking on the "Favorites" button and from there, click on the "History" tab. There should be a list of all the web pages that have been visited for the last few weeks. Here you can check to see if your mate has been using instant messenger programs like AIM or MSN Messenger to talk to people online. Deleting all of the temporary internet files from your computer - sort of like covering their tracks, is a good indicator that they might have something going on that they do not want you know or find out about. Deceit should be considered a type of emotional cheating.