Signs Your Spouse May Be Cheating on You and What You Can Do About It

Nobody wants to believe their spouse is cheating on them, but the fact is cheating spouses are more common than you think. There are a number of signs that signal your spouse is cheating on you, and it is important to pay attention to these signs if you are seeing them.

Here are some signs a spouse may be cheating on you (remember mistakes can be made, so don't automatically assume a spouse is cheating without clear evidence).

1. Your spouse becomes overly attentive to you. Spouses who are cheating may do this because they feel guilty.

2. Your spouse may lose interest in you, your children, and your home. Spouses who are cheating often lose interest in helping around the house, making repairs, and doing anything with their families.

3. You notice that your spouse is spending more money than usual. Spouses that cheat have to pay in order to play, so if you notice a sudden increase in spending this may be a sign your spouse is cheating.

4. Your spouse suddenly becomes very concerned with his/her appearance. Suddenly they are spending a lot of time at the gym, watching what they eat, and spending more time bathing and grooming themselves than they normally would.

5. Suddenly your spouse's sexual needs seem to change. Either they want more sex or less, or they make strange and or unexplained sexual requests of you.

6. You find lipstick in a color not your own on your spouse's collar, there are strange cologne or perfume smells on your spouse's clothes, and or you find secretion stains on his/her underwear.

7. Your spouse starts telling lies without any reason for doing so.

These are only the main signs that your spouse may be cheating on you. Sometimes all you have to go on is a gut feeling. Not that your gut is never wrong but in most cases if you intuition is telling you that your spouse is cheating then he/she probably is.

Here are some things you should do if you suspect your spouse is cheating on you. After all it's important to get proof, you don't want to accuse your spouse and then discover they did nothing wrong.

1. Don't freak out. While your first inclination may be to have a screaming fit with your spouse, don't. Instead begin truly observing your spouse. Remember you want proof.

2. Act normally around your spouse, even if you think you have proof. You don't want your spouse to suspect that you are onto him or her. Instead act normally. Don't change your routine and continue to gather evidence.

3. Do what you can to catch your spouse in the act. Tell your spouse you are going away for the weekend, or going out to lunch with a girlfriend, and then pull your car out of sight but where you can still see your house or apartment building. Now just watch and see if anything happens. Maybe they will call their lover and will come out to meet the person when they arrive. Maybe nothing will happen. If that's the case go shopping or whatever. You'll have another opportunity to catch your spouse in the act.

4. If something does happen, and your spouse's lover pulls up, or he/she leaves and you follow sedately behind them and see him/her meet someone at a motel then begin keeping a record. Actually, I'd suggest beginning to keep a record of all the strange signs and symptoms as soon as you begin to notice them. Make sure you keep your record well hidden from your spouse, you don't want them to find it.

5. Check your spouse's cell phone record. Look for calls in the morning after they've left the house, and in the evening before they come home. If the same number is called every day at both times, or you find that the same number has been called frequently as well, this may be more proof of your spouse having an affair.

6. While the temptation to have it out with your spouse and ask them right then and there if they are cheating may be strong, resist it. The fact is that even if your spouse is cheating he/she is probably going to lie about it.

7. Under no circumstances should you confront a spouse who has a history of physical or verbal abuse towards you and or your children. Instead get help from a private investigator and or the police.

If you discover to your satisfaction that your spouse is cheating on you, have a plan in place for what you are going to do once you've obtained proof. Have whatever help you think you might need in place in order to protect yourself and your children both financially, physically, and emotionally.