Single Men and Women: Say "I Don't" Until You Say "I Do"

You read it right! Say "I don't" until you say "I do" is the mindset single men and women of today should have.

Unfortunately, this is not so. It's "how fast can I get him/her in bed?" It's all about "me, me, me!" No more considering the emotional, physical and spiritual repercussions following "casual sex".

We have demeaned God's most precious gift down to the least common denominator. Sex is the new handshake.

"Hi, nice to meet you. Let's have sex." How cheap have we become as a society.

There was a time when young ladies valued themselves highly. They thought of themselves as someone worthy of a man's respect. They believed that "saving themselves until marriage" was an honorable thing. "Giving it up at the drop of a hat" was the furthest thing from their minds. A woman's worth did not rely on the genitals availability to the first bidder.

A true woman is made up of: a heart, soul and mind. She should be attended to in such a way that shows a deep and abiding appreciation for everything that makes her a woman. A woman deserving to be adored, treasured, loved and respected - not just "sexed".

Sex is a wonderful thing. It brings two individuals closer together both physically and spiritually. Did you read that...spiritually.

When a man and a woman share in the most intimate of exchanges, they exchange not only bodily fluids, but spirits. Each man and woman has a spirit, and every time we kiss or have sexual intercourse (including oral sex) a piece of your spirit enters the other's body. Or haven't you noticed that couples that have been together for a long time, they begin to resemble one another? It is because they have exchanged each other's spirits and have taken on each other's spiritual DNA.

1 Corinthians 6:16 (The Message translation) "There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." "

Do you want to go through life carrying the spiritual DNA of someone that has no heart, no love for anyone other than them self? I don't think so, because you then will become heartless and uncaring about anyone other than you. Seeking only to satisfy your needs with no regards to the needs of others. Just like the last person you had sex with. And this continues with every person you engage in sex with for as long as you remain sexually active outside the bonds of marriage.

I am not condemning anyone, I myself was once promiscuous. I would sleep with whatever male would have me at that time. I know full well how strong sexual desires can be overwhelming to the point of physical consumption. You are driven by lustful spirits to surrender yourself to physical gratification. Moral upbring and common sense "be damned"!

We have abandoned principles and morality and exchanges them for cheap thrills.

And before you think I have forgotten you males out there...

I know, I know...men are raised differently. They are taught by other misguided men - aka "fathers and other males", that the more women they "nail" the greater a man they are.

WRONG!!!

To me, a "real" man is one that can control his emotions and urges. He does not have to find a willing hole to park his erection in to "prove his manhood,or manliness". A "real" man knows love emanates from the heart and soul, not by plugging up some female's hole!

Moreover, you males must recognize that it takes two to have sex, therefore, if she's a "whore, slut, skank or such",what does that make you?

In this day of STD's, I would think that "keeping it zipped up" would be more enticing than whipping it out for use at the blowing of a mild breeze. And with the number of "deadbeat dads", one would think no "man" wants to add his name to that list and risk their reputation all because of a little moment of immaturity.

That's right! I said I-M-M-A-T-U-R-I-T-Y!

Only a child plays with a toy with reckless abandon, not caring if in playing with it he endangers his life or that of his friends. A child will lay their toys around all over the place and not worry about it until they can't use it the way they could before they were so careless with it. A child would put the toy in places it doesn't belong so they can see what might happen, and if isn't broken, once its been removed, then they find another place to put it, and keep doing it until it either stops working, or causes irreparable damage elsewhere.

Oh, BTW---you downlow brothers!? Y'all better cut it out - before it gets cut off!

You know who you are!!!!

So what if you can't be with your woman and you and your boys got "a little too drunk" and watched skin flicks till you got a hard-on....that is not your woman's problem.

You knew what you were doing the minute you unzipped your pants and let Paul "meat" you at the back door. Or you let Manny suck you dry.

Do you know who else was in Paul's behind, or Manny's mouth? Or who was there before them, and before them, and before them?...I know that answer and so do you - NO!

Then you have the audacity to go home to your female companions, have sex and put their lives at risk. Not to mention your own once she finds out how she got this disease.

It's TIME OUT for all of this foolishness!

Let's treat sex with the respect it deserves. Let's treat ourselves with the respect we deserve. Let's treat each other with the respect we all deserve.

Wait until that day when you and your betrothed stand before God, man, family and friends and exchange those vows and promise to love, honor and cherish one another as man and wife. Then later on, when all the guests have home and the honeymoon begins...get busy till you get dizzy! Love one another till ain't nothin' left to love till tomorrow.

And as for the single people of the world? Sorry...sex was created for the marriage bed,and married people ONLY! If God hasn't given you a spouse, and maybe you have no desire to marry, then consider yourself a eunuch, live your life with gusto -just no sex. If you don't believe me, read the BIBLE.

Here are a few scriptural references: (Best read in The Message or God's Word - I recommend using www.BIBLOS.com, it has many translations to make the Word easier to understand.
1 Corinthians 7 (The whole chapter)
Hebrews 13(Whole Chapter)

God wants you to be joyful, not happy - happiness is determined by external, temporal, or temporary things. Things that can change at a moment's notice, or quicker. "An external force should not dictate an internal reactions". When the external factor disappears- so does the "happiness". But "the joy of the Lord is your strength" (Nehemiah 8:10).

And I leave you with this prayer: "Beloved, I wish above all things that you may prosper and be in health, even as your soul prospers." (American King James Version)